Really confused, Whats goin on here?!

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Registered: 12-20-2005
Really confused, Whats goin on here?!
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Sat, 06-24-2006 - 1:33pm
Okay Hey Everyone- I am royally confused here. I met this guy a few weeks ago at a club and I gave him my number, well he didn't call for about 3 days. He invited me to this one party, so we went and it was fun. He was pretty much always near me, and talking to me. He was even rubbing my back at one point! So from then on we talked on the phone briefly (like 2 minutes, lol) every day. A week later or so my friend and I were at the beach and he stopped by and hung out. He seems interested and flirts with me a little. But one day he just didn't call back, and so I of course freak out, well basically just wonder what's up. So there went a few days where we didn't talk and then I ran into him at the mall...a little awkward! He told me that his sister has had his phone and that's why he didn't get a hold of me- it just all seemed kinda fishy to me. I feel kinda dumb though cause when he says he will call and doesn't, I end up calling him and probably seem needy or something. Well after that incident at the mall, he called me a few nights later, and we would talk for a few days after that. Then one night I called him and pretty much just asked when he would want to hang out, because it seems like all we do is talk on the phone, it's stupid! He said it's a definite possibility and he would give me a call. Well he never did so I called him drunk and he didn't really bring it up. So I asked him again and he just kinda avoided it and said he would call me later. Well...never heard from him for 5 days!! What the hell?! Then he calls me and asks what I'm doing, I told him I was going to this one party and he wanted me to call him later. Well I called him and he ended up coming to that party. Of course he flirted with me and stuff. I also noticed he has a picture of his ex-girlfriend on his phone, yet he says they are just friends...? I have a feeling he is defnitely talking to other girls too. I just don't get what is going on here. I mean am I overreacting? I guess I have just learned a lot about guys from my ex, and I thought when they call all the time it means they are interested, but it's weird, because he never asks me to hang out, he usually just casually shows up where a bunch of us are hanging out at. But he seems interested, he'll flirt and look at me a lot and stuff like that. So last night I talked to him and he said he probably didn't want to do anything for the night. So, I just said "well do you wanna do somethin maybe or?" and he said "i don't think i really feel like doin anything", okay, ouch! So then he calls me later which I didn't think he would ever again, and asks what I am doing, I said I was just driving home cause there was nothing to do, and he was just driving around too, and said he would call me tomorrow. Why didn't he ask to meet up or anything?! I don't get it! He just seems so difficult. I don't get why we talk on the phone for like 2 minutes everyday just for him to call me later and talk about the same damn thing and then call me later again! It's so dumb! Unless maybe he just thinks it's a cool friendly thing to do, I don't know. It's just like I figured he would stop calling if he was annoyed or not interested, but nope he keeps calling, but yet we hardly ever hang out. What do I do? Do I just quit answering the phone? That would be really hard because I really like him and I know that I probably couldn't do it. Do I just keep going with the flow as long as I can take it. I mean how do I hint to him that I want to hang out, I mean he's gotta know I want to! I don't want him to be annoyed or anything. Anyway, if anyone could just give me their point of view or any advice that would be great!
Thanks!
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Registered: 12-27-2004
Sat, 06-24-2006 - 5:41pm
He's not interested.
He sounds like he just enjoys flirting and maybe seeing you get off on his flirting with you but really means nothing by it.
You will know when a guy is really interested and believe me, he will act nothing like this.
If a guy is too hard for me to read, it means he's not that into you. He's got other issues going on and I'll bet it includes another woman whom you know nothing about. If not, then he's probably just not ready for a relationship. He doesn't mind flirting with you but he dosn't want to be in a relationship with you.
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Registered: 06-02-2005
Sun, 06-25-2006 - 4:47am

>He's not interested.
>If a guy is too hard for me to read
>it means he's not that into you.

I agree. Stop chasing him.