rejection

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Registered: 01-26-2006
rejection
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Thu, 01-26-2006 - 12:53pm
I get rejection from women,what do i do next
do i now live a single life or continue with the hurt of rejection
while others make fun of me because no woman seems to want any thing to
do with me
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Registered: 11-01-2005
In reply to: seanpet
Thu, 01-26-2006 - 3:21pm

We all get rejected from time to time. That doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you, it could just mean you haven't made the right connection.

My advice is try, try again. It will be worth it in the end.

It might be worth it to ask a good friend if there's anything you might do without realizing it that puts off a woman. Not that I'm assuming you do this, but do you use cheesy pick-up lines, for example? A good friend who is willing to be honest might have some good pointers that will help you boost your chances for success.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 01-18-2006
In reply to: seanpet
Thu, 01-26-2006 - 5:18pm

You get rejected because you approach the women WHO ARE NOT INTERESTED IN YOU.

You should only approach those women who ARE INTERESTED. Which ones are those, you ask? Those who steal a glance at you a couple of times.

AND, if no one ever looks at you at all, then something's wrong with your clothes/hairstyle/presentation, and you should seek honest advice from a female friend or a female coworker etc. on what you can do to make yourself more attractive.




Edited 1/26/2006 5:23 pm ET by ukw1980
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Registered: 09-01-2005
In reply to: seanpet
Thu, 01-26-2006 - 6:40pm
Rejection happens. It's normal. Everyone can't instantly love everyone. Keep trying and in the mean time, make sure you're someone YOU would want to be around. If you (in general- not a personal attack) can't stand yourself it's no wonder that no one else wants to hang around you, either. On the other hand, if you make an effort to be fun, outgoing, honest and interesting then chances are others will think so, too.
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Registered: 06-25-2005
In reply to: seanpet
Thu, 01-26-2006 - 11:11pm

Oh sweetie... Chin up! Let's break down the situation: Who do you approach? What do you say? How do you act? The sad thing is that in dating first impressions are EVERYTHING! You can't seem too confident or too aloof. You can't be too dressy or too sloppy. You can't seem too arrogant or too insecure. It's true everyone and I mean everyone gets rejected.....Jennifer Aniston for Angelina Jolie, Ben Affleck for Marc Antony and most recently who can forget Jessica Simpson dumping Nick Lache! (spelling?)

Anyway, first decipher what the problem is: Are you misreading signals from women? (Never approach a woman when she is w/a gaggle of friends) Are you coming on too strong?(Try using the same approach on different women-same result? change the approach!) Still not having luck? (Watch back-to-back marathons of What Not To Wear and Queer Eye for the Straight Guy!!)

Keep us posted!!

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Registered: 03-20-2003
In reply to: seanpet
Fri, 01-27-2006 - 5:38pm

My question is: Why do YOU think women reject you?


Answer that question and then do something about it.