Relationships and readiness

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Registered: 10-04-2005
Relationships and readiness
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Tue, 10-11-2005 - 6:01pm

Hiya, i'm new to the board, but I just thought I'd write in and see what other people thought about this-
I started going out with a guy last week, but I can't work out whether or not it's just because he's liked me for so long and i'm bored of being single or whether I actually like him.
One of my friends said to me 'we need to get you a boyfriend' and i was like why? and he said that i was missing out, and from the look of relationships around me I didn't really think I'd want to be in a relationship. Last time I was in a relationship was a couple of years ago, and I was only about 15, probably going out with someone back then for the same reason that I just felt I should.
But what is all this about needing to be with someone? I don't think I even like the guy I'm going out with, but no one else can find fault with him. He's not bad looking or anything but at the same time I always felt that he'd be a bit boring for me, but i thought that i might as well go out with him to see how it goes, and i told him this, but he just seems to ignore that and go right in for the mushy stuff.. for instance when I went out to work to do mega overtime in a day, he text me when i got home, and i said how tired i was and that i was gonna go 2 bed, n he text me back saying he wished he could snuggle up with me, and the thought of it immediately repulsed me.
I mean, I'm a gay guy and I know I like guys, but at the moment I just don't seem interested, or maybe it's the fact that the right guys haven't been coming my way.

I really don't know what to do at the moment. should i dump him and be done with it, or make do and see if it gets any better? knowing my luck he wouldn't leave it alone if i did dump him, he'd probably pester me and tell me i didn't give it enough time. but do original sparks actually need time?

can people please tell me what they think of all this?
thankyou

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Tue, 10-11-2005 - 6:22pm

No one else is living your life, so no one else should tell you who to date.

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Registered: 08-13-2005
Tue, 10-11-2005 - 6:41pm
I'd say end it and just continue being happy with your singlenss. If you don't want a relationship right now and aren't particularly excited about dating him, then why pretend? Be true to who you are and what you want out of life right now.