Relocating and Starting over

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Relocating and Starting over
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Sun, 09-23-2007 - 12:56am
Hey everyone, I have a weird "question". Has anyone ever relocated to a new city basically for the hell of it? Well, I have been living in my current

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Sun, 09-23-2007 - 8:47am

I relocated once for work but it was also for the hell of it to as I had the option of staying in my hometown instead for another job. It was one of the best decisions I made for my personal life-- I had wonderful experiences, made new friends, got to live in a fun city by the beach, dated-- I didn't know one person when I moved there and it was about 1000 miles from home but I'd do it the same all over again. Moving someplace completely new where you know no one will teach you new things about yourself and can bring out the best in you I believe. You just have to handle it the right way. I became much more independent, much more social, much more open-minded, when I got out of my comfort zone and made my move.

Plus, if you're bored with life as it is, that just gives you an even greater reason to move. Sometimes we just come to dead-ends in certain places and no matter what you do, it just doesn't improve so it's best to make a fresh start. I've been feeling like that about my current place and have decided that if things don't improve by next year-- ie, getting into a relationship worth sticking around for and getting a good raise-- then I'll probably move again. It's easy to stagnate in one place but time flies and the last thing I'd ever want to do is stay here because it's easy and comfortable... all of a sudden it's ten years later, nothing has changed and I could end up kicking myself for not being brave and shaking things up a little by moving and forcing some change.

As far as finding a job, just research companies in your potential new city, find their websites and see if there are positions there you'd qualify for. Also try job fairs. That's how I got the job that took me to a new city. You can also visit the new city just to get the hang of it and let the companies know you'll be in town for a few days. they may say sure, stop in just because it would save them the cost of bringing you there for the interview and putting you up overnight.

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Sun, 09-23-2007 - 9:37am

Good morning,afternoon or evening Bailey337,


You know one of the advantages of being single and free, is being able to move when you want to! You don't have to worry about a hubby finding a new job, or putting kids in a new school etc. I would suggest you visit the city your thinking about moving to. And check it out.The job market, housing costs etc. And that will determine if you feel it is the right thing for you to do. Are you a part of national sorority or anything? If so you can contact them and have them show you around. If you are a woman of faith attend a church in that city and contact the singles ministry. These are some things you may want to try. I think it is great that you want to get a new start. I am making plans myself to relocate by next August. Probaly California. I have a sister and family there. But I have never been there. I know the housing is very expensive, but I only have me to look out for. Life is short, get a plan together and go for it!


I wish you the best!

Chelle-

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Thu, 09-27-2007 - 4:26pm

Hi,


I am actually going to be doing exactly that now in October. I just ended a long term relationship and feel that I need to move and start over.

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Thu, 09-27-2007 - 10:28pm
What part of Virginia?
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Fri, 09-28-2007 - 7:33am
Yes, Northern Virginia.
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Fri, 09-28-2007 - 10:37am
I live in the DC area now, just on the Maryland side of the border. I've been here since 96 and have never regretted the decision to move here. And yes, DC is a beautiful city. I love the fact that lots of things are free...all the museums (with very few exceptions....those not belonging to the Smithsonian), all the monuments,
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Fri, 09-28-2007 - 10:43am

Funny this thread should pop up. I'm hoping to make the move from Baltimore to DC by next spring. I've been feeling for years like I'm ready to move on from my hometown and start over but really experience something different.


Plus I want to meet more upwardly mobile, young people and go where there's lots to do. I'm so craving city life right now (I'm currently in the suburbs) and I need more of everything. I'm going to start applying for jobs at the end of the year. My goal is to not be here by this time next year.

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Fri, 09-28-2007 - 10:53am
That's not very far to move....should be easy for you! If you want that sort of city lifestyle, you don't have to be in the city in this area. If you go to the Northern VA area, particularly around Arlington, you'll find the type of environment you're looking for, but it won't come cheap. It is extremely expensive to live anywhere around here, but in the fun areas it costs the most.
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Fri, 09-28-2007 - 10:56am

Thanks!

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Fri, 09-28-2007 - 11:01am
I've opened up my account here to receiving emails. If I don't answer it means I don't have a current address in my profile and I've yet to figure out how to access that part to change my account. Just post back here if that happens.

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