Relying on oneself
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Relying on oneself
| Wed, 11-30-2011 - 10:58pm |
Got home from exercise to an email from Mr Smith telling me he needs to cancel our plan to get together next week (business reason) and that his family just announced they'll be flying in on Dec 20 to spend 3 weeks with him for the holiday. Now I won't see him until January, and that just won't work for me.
Mr Hot n Cold has sent a half dozen texts since he got back, including several from his office today, but made no move to suggest we get together.
The man I thought I might go see in Chicago in January, a lost love from 9 years ago, who is incredibly interesting, smart and sexy, called this morning to uninvite me from coming to visit him.
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Trust me, you are not alone in feeling this way.
Thanks, Peb.
I too would have a hard time with someone who I hope to have a future with who tells me that I'm not first priority in their life, especially over the holidays.
For me that would be enough to end it and not waste my emotional energy to force something that is not there for the other person.
I wish you Peace Marina.
Mark
Sorry Pbe, what you feel for the guy is not love. What it is, is a mixture of fantasy and good memories that exists in your head. In the end your love of self trumped everything else. And that's not what love is about.
I need to rely on only myself
You are correct that this country was founded on rugged individualism, but I think that mindset has contributed to much loneliness and disconnection in our culture. We feel it is almost a weakness to need other people, but we are a species that was meant to be interconnected, and a romantic partner is just one part of the picture.
Among the rural villages in central Africa, there is a saying that goes, “You can travel faster alone but farther together.”
Ubuntu
Yep; that is def. the challenge. Finding someone to connect with and then the chemistry and on and on.. It almost seems impossible and then throw in a bunch of variables and it gets more challenging.
I mean there could be a great guy or girl somewhere out there but the trick is to find them.
The ones I have met OLD is either I like them and they dont like me.. Or other way around.. Or they live in another state and I would be willing to try LTR but they dont. Men I have met IRL are okay but they go after younger, prettier, bigger boobs, etc. just reality of life..
I get in these moods every so often, being very down about never finding anyone.
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