Remember that guy?

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Remember that guy?
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Fri, 08-10-2012 - 2:58am
Awhile back I posted about going out alone for the first time. I met a guy and sat at the bar and talked to him for a couple of hours and then he left. I didn't think I'd see him ever again. I thought he was interested, but he didn't ask for my number so I kind of forgot about him.

He was out tonight and we kind of danced around talking for awhile. He said hi first, and eventually he came over and talked to me and never left my side. He remembered details I'd told him before about myself that I would never have expected him to remember. It was one of those situations where you notice he's getting closer and closer, then you notice his hand on your back, then lower and you call him on it! He did ask for my number this time so we'll see if anything comes from it. Yesterday was his 30th birthday, so he's not even that young. I'm not expecting anything, but I'm hopeful. :-)

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Mon, 08-13-2012 - 7:54am

I don't have anything exciting, either!  I texted him Saturday just to ask how he made it to where he was going, then yesterday I asked how his weekend was, and I got minimal responses.  A friend of mine is always telling me that I don't show enough interest, so I'm trying to let him know I am interested without being pushy.  I'm kind of disappointed that he didn't call or anything, but I also normally wouldn't be upset if I hadn't made contact, so I'm trying to remind myself of that. 

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Mon, 08-13-2012 - 4:41am
Hey-hey! Way to go! :-)

Don´t count on me for something exciting from this weekend....hehe. The only thing I can say is that I was walking towards the bus stop in short skirt and heels on Saturday afternoon (lovely weather!), and Mr Bass Player rode past me on bike... Oh, how exciting news. ;-)
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Registered: 07-16-2001
Sat, 08-11-2012 - 2:15pm
It's the guy I met the other night. My FWB also has the same initial. He (FWB) has gotten to the point of showing absolutely no interest in me at all except sex- not even friendship- so that's fizzled. Not having an actual relationship was fine with him, but not even staying to talk and catch up afterwards was not. I didn't really even want to see him anymore.

I'm still worried this new guy will flop, but I guess that's always the case. A friend of his (female) who has always been rather unfriendly (to put it nicely) with me told him I'm crazy and he still wanted to see me. I told him to ask her for examples or reasons, because I'm pretty sure she won't come up with any. She's just jealous. She glared at me when she saw him talking to me!

And yes, I'm going to hold out. :-) Let's just say I'm really tired today!
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Sat, 08-11-2012 - 1:41pm

Uh huh, holding out on us, I see . . . I get it. Glad you had fun!

WAIT.  Is T the guy you met from the other night or is that your FWB?

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Sat, 08-11-2012 - 12:26pm
Last night really didn't turn out like I thought at all! He was at the mercy of coworkers driving, so didn't even get back to his car to come meet me until late. I went to the place we originally met bc that's where we agreed on, and my friends who were there suddenly had to leave. Oh, but there were two guys there who I'd already had some dealings with (one was a ONS from back in December who I liked at first but turned out to be incredibly racist so I never called him again and the second I just kissed. I posted about both of them). The ONS guy obviously didn't remember me because he was trying to hit in me a bit. I just ignored him. The other guy obviously remembered bc he steered clear! Eventually T made it and everything was fine. No jitters or anything at that point. It was too late to be nervous!

I will not share details of the rest of the night. :-). That would be unladylike. Hehe..

He had a family thing to do today, but I'm definitely going to talk to him later.
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Fri, 08-10-2012 - 7:33pm

Have fun!!!   I am so happy for you.   What a nice turn of events and you didn't even have to wear the 'appropriate' color! 

Rock on with your bad self...

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Fri, 08-10-2012 - 7:10pm
So...

I told him he could join us if he wanted to, and he said he would. Later, a friend invited him to a football game, so he's going to that first and we're going to meet up later. My friends kept calling it a date, but it is not a date! Just meeting for a drink, and we'll both probably have friends with us. That makes me much less nervous!!! I must shower now. Don't wanna stink for him!!
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Fri, 08-10-2012 - 4:30pm

Texting is the devil!  That's why I'd prefer not to do it (all of those grey areas) but you almost have to . . . I've tried the "I prefer a quick call over a text." line but it never lasts.

There's no rule of thumb.  One could employ common sense but not everyone thinks the same way.  Of course, it isn't an issue once you get comfortable with someone but in that "getting to know you" phase it's like playing a game of chess.

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Fri, 08-10-2012 - 3:47pm

Shy, it is great that you are texting now! If he answers to your texts, you should not worry about being "bothersome". :smileyhappy: Promising, indeed! Looking forward to hearing updates.

It was a big thing for me finally approaching him when alone and talking to him, without blushing or stuttering! I am normally talkative and it therefore sounds a bit stupid, but when it comes to guys I actually like a lot, those things are somewhat difficult at first. 

Rocklady, you are my kinda gal! :smileywink: I don´t look the part, but I am a rock chick! Mmm, rock musicians.... Must say though, that this guy is an "average" kind of guy in most aspects. Tall, skinny and short hair, wearing jeans and Converse. And a bit shy. But very handsome! :smileyhappy: And he is most fond of jazz, as far as I can understand. But he plays everything, he is part of a huge number of bands/projects. I have him on Facebook, so I can get some updates. He´s not using it that much though.

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Fri, 08-10-2012 - 1:48pm
But at some point the conversation has to end! Plus he's working, so I don't want to be bothersome. He did respond, and asked me what I was up to tonight. I do have plans, but one friend is iffy bc her daughter threw up this morning and another is iffy bc of family stuff. So I told him I had shaky plans. No response to that yet! And that was after I just said to have a good rest of the day, kind of ending the conversation.

Stay tuned for further updates...

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