Sad/Unemployed & Needing words of encouragement..........

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-27-2002
Sad/Unemployed & Needing words of encouragement..........
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Thu, 09-22-2011 - 3:54pm

Hi,

I was just reading the thread about feeling down and I thought I'd start my own, because I didn't want to hijack it....... :)

Guess I am feeling down too.......I have been unemployed now for six months (with the exception of a three week stint with a disastrous company/boss).

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iVillage Member
Registered: 04-15-2009
I have been there and its an awful feeling. Keep your chin up and keep applying as much as you can. If you haven't already done so, make sure to register with as many headhunters as you can, they have resources you don't have. Also make sure to do as much networking as possible, its always easier if you have an "in". Those girls are obviously not your friends, they are not worth any more thought. Surround yourself with people who love and respect you. My thoughts are with you and best of luck!
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999

Yes, being unemployed is one of the most stressfult things and esp. a problem when you are single.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-27-2002

Hi,

Thank you both for your replies and understanding.

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Registered: 10-16-2006

My heart goes out to those going through a tough economic situation right now. I was laid off back in 2004 at age 49 (didn't see it coming). Even though I had plenty of savings, it was still a frightening time. I would go to the grocery store and be just shocked at how expensive everything was, when before I just bought whatever I wanted and didn't pay attention.

I was very lucky in that I'm a graphic designer and can freelance. Within three weeks I was getting calls to work. There were no other places in town I wanted to work, and eventually, I became self-employed with my own clients. I have had some very good years, but I've had a couple of years that were mediocre. I am so fortunate to be very busy right now, and have been all year, but I don't take it for granted for one minute. I can't even imagine how scary it would have been to be laid off in 2008. I was so glad that I was established by then because there wouldn't have been the freelance opportunities that I had back in 2004.

I'm telling you this for two reasons: first of all, I appreciate what you're going through--it's very isolating to not be working. But the other thing is that this really could lead to something new and wonderful and impossible for you to imagine. I know that sounds like a platitude, but I really mean it. All the other designers I know who were laid off eventually found something better than what they had.

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Registered: 07-16-2001

I am absolutely terrified of being in your situation.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008

I know exactly how you feel because I am going through something similar and I am 57 years old. Some days are unbearable and I try and find solutions and always working on a plan..

Not to hijack the post as you say but like Florida said in 2008 everything just crashed. Economy, jobs, investments and all.

I am one of those people who is now struggling to get by.. day by day.

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Registered: 04-15-2009
Another piece of advice, don't look back on past decisions and regret them, save only to learn from them. You will soon find positive things and people cone along as a result. I chose to leave a job I liked, then go laid off, then the next one let me go unfairly, I was then unemployed for 5 months and left this city for better prospects in a city I hate. I hated it there, the job and most everything but I got to bond with my aunt and gained skills and experience for my current job back in my first city, I moved back when my lease was up. I am convinced it was the experience gained there that got me the job I have now where I am happy and have good prospects back in the city I love. Sounds like Music had a similar experience with a negative turning into a positive. Keep your chin up and eyes open for opportunities! :)
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Registered: 01-25-2010

I a,m going thru the similar things.

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Registered: 04-08-2008

The recession in '08 was very predictable. Prices are high bc the price of oil is high and every product requires oil to be produced, shipped and sold at every level (even food). But the US economy used to be run on agriculture and manufacturing. Look up the percentages from 1970 and now...you'll find that the number of jobs in those two sectors has been downsized dramatically. I could explain it, but I don't think that is helpful to Mel and I don't want to hijack her thread. But I did want to point this out in case you are interested in answering your own questions...or you could start another thread and I'll answer you there...

Dee

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Registered: 04-08-2008
Mel,

As a fellow Canadian, I am sorry you are going through this. I have a friend who was unjustly laid off a few months ago. She has used the time to start a hobby business - she's a painter. It may never pay the rent, but it keeps her energy up and she has a creative outlet. Are there any hobbies or interests you have always wanted to pursue? Maybe you can find a way for them to pay for themselves...or just get you involved in something.

You would be amazed at all the fantastic "how-to" videos on you tube - you could even teach yourself to play a musical instrument for free! (I'm not muscially inclined but I can now play some xmas carols on the piano :)

As to the friends - they suck.

((HUGS)) And I really hope that things get better for you.

Dee

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