Safety as a single

First, I think your friend should have waited with you for the bus - the other night I left a party with a couple (three of us were going to share a cab) and a single woman - very nice area of Manhattan - still we made sure she got the first cab. I am much safer in a relationship - for example - yesterday I had outpatient surgery at a hospital - my mother came but yes if she were not around I would not like to have to rely on a friend over a boyfriend - for ex. my friend said she would drive us home - I told her that we would take a taxi instead - and good thing as she came down with a high fever - had this been a bf he would have either come anyway or found someone else - of course I would have never blamed my friend for not being able to do it - because she is a married woman, not my boyfriend, and already went the extra mile simply by offering to pick us up - but when it comes down to it, a bf who is in love with you and cares is going to be a little more dependable than a friend and I feel more comfortable depending on a boyfriend, over a friend.

I definitely feel safer at a bar, on the subway, etc. - less chance a couple will be bothered - and just knowing that a bf will check on you at least once a day so, living alone, I would never be alone for long in a harmful situation (yes, parents and sister also call frequently but they don't live close by).

And on 9/11 I thank G-d I had Jeff in my life and someone to stay with for the several weeks after - would have hated being in my apartment alone with all the smoke, odors, and tragic air in the City and inside me.

None of this motivates me to be in a relationship - it is nice perk/fringe benefit, but when it becomes a "reason" to stay, I think it is an obvious sign the relationship is not healthy.