Saturday night

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Saturday night
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Mon, 08-18-2014 - 10:43pm
Really, I'm just amused by this... I've posted before about my married girlfriend. She's gotten much better with her social skills since I met her. She's a good friend and is there when I need her, but boy she can't stand it if I get more attention than she does from men (yes, I said she's married). Saturday night, we were out at a new karaoke place. We've been going for a couple of months and it's just opened, so we've gotten to know most of the regulars. There was a guy there- maybe 45 but he looked much older- who was bugging me. He was far too drunk and wanted me to "play" with him. I told him I don't play pool. He said, "Oh, so you don't know how to have fun?" Cue the b*#ch treatment. My friend was sitting right there. When I told her what he said, she yelled to him, "Hey! I'll play pool with you!" Fortunately, there was another guy there- a regular- who was all about making sure this guy didn't bug me or anyone else (which he was doing). He ended up getting the guy kicked out. Cue the second guy who was bugging me. At this point, the regular was sticking to me. He told me what he was doing, and I said it was fine. So after both drunk guys had been dealt with, the regular guy told me to take his number and to give him a call if I ever needed help again. I didn't take it as flirting or interest. He was just being friendly. Not five minutes later, my married friend asked him for his number. He told her no. (Hehe) He also immediately told me a story about a girl he gave his number too who started sending him inappropriate texts and he didn't like it. I think he thought she'd do that! So after he walked away, she said, "So, C said he gave you his number. What was it so I can have it too?" My answer? Ummmm...there was a 6 and a 2, and maybe a 1 something. I don't remember. I don't think she liked that much. But darn it, can't I get attention without her needing it too??? I think she's run a few guys off. Unfortunately, I'm not interested in anything more than friendship with the guy. He's respectful, protective, friendly....and maybe 25 and not so attractive. Isn't that the way it works? Btw- I did put paragraph breaks in this. They never seem to post that way, though.
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Registered: 11-28-1999
In reply to: shywon
Mon, 08-18-2014 - 10:47pm

It's really odd to me that a married woman is asking men for phone numbers--what would her DH think about that?

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Registered: 05-10-2005
In reply to: shywon
Tue, 08-19-2014 - 7:15am

I think it's interesting that this guy already figured out he didn't want your friend to have his number.  He spotted potential trouble!  Glad he helped you out - even if you're not interested in dating him, it's still nice to feel like someone has your back. 

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Registered: 07-16-2001
In reply to: shywon
Tue, 08-19-2014 - 8:14am
I think it's odd, too. I don't think it's because she wanted to have an affair or something. She just can't stand it if she isn't the center of attention. If someone compliments me on my voice, she will say "what about me? I sang too." I've seen her ask for many men's numbers over the years. She's also bad about texting a guy if she knows I am (if we're together). I'm glad he told her no! Guys like him are the reason why I like small places. You get to know everyone, and someone always has your back.
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Tue, 08-19-2014 - 10:39am

Some people are just that way, wanting, needing the attention, who knows why? Lack of it during a key period of development maybe. Besides that she was married ,maybe the guys find you more attractive than her. We know nothing about her marriage but of course many people who are married really do not have much of one and that certainly can bring out the flirty behavior.

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Registered: 01-25-2010
In reply to: shywon
Wed, 08-20-2014 - 10:46pm

ROFL!!!!    If i told you haw many times I  though I would hook-up at a club and as we  get to the parking lot a bit ok kissing they she say i fot to go home the games's over and my husband is waiting.  I asked them why not say out front they always answered I though you would not dance with me.  Which is silly from My tactics, dancing  with several women and talking  to them raises my chances.   People like being with people who are having fun and seem open and nice and mannerly.

  

dragowoman

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 08-21-2014 - 11:18am

I have a friend who has been dating a guy long distance since April or so--since she is a teacher and has the summer off, they have been able to spend a lot of time together over the summer, but now of course she has to go back to work.  He does not want her dancing with other men which I think is ridiculous because we're not talking about dancing in clubs where you are likely to find drunk guys who want to hook up--we're talking mainly about ballroom and swing dancing--no alcohol and a lot of guys are elderly and nice older gents--it's too bad that the BF can't understand the difference and that there is a distinction between dancing and dating.  And she would not be giving out her phone no. and pretending to be single.

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Registered: 07-16-2001
In reply to: shywon
Thu, 08-21-2014 - 7:27pm
That's what I don't get about my friend, Music. She doesn't pretend to be single. She even flaunts her wedding ring like she's better than me for having it. It's not about actually picking up men. It's about proving she could. And no, she's not really attractive so she's not one guys will hit on otherwise
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Registered: 07-16-2001
In reply to: shywon
Sat, 08-23-2014 - 1:50pm
Get this- Thursday night, I left her hovering next to a younger muscley guy. He's one I normally would have talked to, but he was sitting with two women. I just had to shake my head and leave. I'm kinda feeling like going out alone tonight. My luck, everyone I know will text wanting to make plans!
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Registered: 01-25-2010
In reply to: xxxs
Sun, 08-24-2014 - 12:36am

Dump her she is in your way.  She sabotages your chances.   She is insecure and a tease.  Worse, others will think you are too.

dragowoman