Saying stupid stuff

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Saying stupid stuff
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Sat, 02-18-2006 - 8:10pm

Have you ever said something really stupid without even thinking to a guy, and then regretted it?

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Sat, 02-18-2006 - 8:24pm

Dating is really not fun, until you know there is a mutual interest and chemistry with somebody. Until then, it is just plain ole work!!

I think it depends on how mich he likes you, whether he will get over it. If he is smitten with you, nothing you can say or do in the beginning will change his mind. If he is questioning it, then he might just think you are demanding and move on.

It happens to the best of us and it is hard not to take things personally and jump to conclusions, especially when your heart in invloved. For example, I was supposed to go out with this ex that I dated. He did a lot of stupid stuff and asked to take me out that day to make up for it. Well, I had a long and early day and I fell asleep and was very late to his place. Instead of calling and asking if everything was okay, I get this pissed text from him. He thought I stood him up on purpose. See what I mean??? We always think the worst when our heart is invloved.

Try not to worry about it too much.

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Sun, 02-19-2006 - 12:44pm

It seems that we just don't have faith in people anymore, ya know?

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Mon, 02-20-2006 - 10:18am

I think if he wants to call, he will. And, most likely, he won't put it off unless he's already committed to other plans.

Now, I only say this so confidently today because I spent the weekend on a last-minute road trip with three of my male friends and this trip, among other things, has completely reinforced my opinion that when a guy really wants to talk to/be with a girl, he lets her know.

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Mon, 02-20-2006 - 10:50am

He did call and we met last night.

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Mon, 02-20-2006 - 12:52pm

Yes, but interested in *what* is the question!

Sheri

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Mon, 02-20-2006 - 1:17pm

Yeah, I realize that when I responded to that last post I was probably telling you something you already knew, but I got a reinforcement and it was inevitable that I'd have to pass it along.

I think it can be tough to know what someone is interested in until you've spent a little more time with them. If you have suspicions that his intentions are less-than-honorable you'll likely notice within the first couple of dates.

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Mon, 02-20-2006 - 4:30pm

No kidding.

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Mon, 02-20-2006 - 4:34pm

I think I tend to have way too many suspicions- guity until proven innocent- unfortunately.

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Mon, 02-20-2006 - 6:32pm
EXACTLY what I was thinking, Sheri. Men will put forth effort if they really like someone or if they really think that it will lead to sex.
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Mon, 02-20-2006 - 6:35pm
Heeheeheee - I think the same kind of things. I think that there is a special corner of hell where we get to sit around for eternity hearing the things like that which people wonder about us. I can just hear what they are saying about me now.

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