scared to date again?

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Registered: 04-03-2003
scared to date again?
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Thu, 09-04-2003 - 9:40pm
ok i porbably know the answer to this already but i've been shying off dating lately i mean i've gotten over my horrible relationship the ended last summer and i have dated a few times since but they've been all bad experiences now that i started up school again i met alot of cool guys that have asked me out but i just can never bring myself to say yes and when i do i get major anxiety over it i know i should just get back into the game since i've been out for awhile now but it's nerrveracking any suggestions or helpful advice would be greatly appreciated
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Thu, 09-04-2003 - 11:26pm
Hey Trinity! How have you been? How's school going?

I know how you feel about being scared to date. I feel the same way sometimes. The thing is, if you never say yes, you could be missing out on a really great guy. He could be your future husband, he could be a great friend, or he could just be someone you spend a nice few hours with. You'll never know if you don't say yes! Just keep your chin up, and tell yourself that if these guys are asking you out, then you can't possibly deny them the pleasure! (That is, unless they are scumbags, then I give you permission to reject them!)

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Registered: 06-19-2003
Fri, 09-05-2003 - 2:55pm
I think if you're that scared, then you're not ready yet.

Since you have so much trepidation, then hold off til you feel more at ease. Say as much--tell the prospective date that you had A Big Break-up and you're not quite ready, and if he thinks he's still interested in "x" amount of time, he should ask you again.

If they don't, they're not worth your time anyway. And if they do--who knows?

Ash

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Registered: 04-03-2003
Sat, 09-06-2003 - 12:12am
it's not the breakup that's still affecting me i've been on alot of dates since it's just they all ended up badly, but school's going great meeting alot of cool people i've been swamped lately with the paper's, it's tough after not writing one for about five years