Self-Image and dating

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Self-Image and dating
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Sat, 02-25-2012 - 12:28pm

This morning I woke up full of vim and vigor and decided to tidy up my closet.

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Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
Sat, 02-25-2012 - 12:44pm

Most of my jeans and work pants are too small right now.

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Sat, 02-25-2012 - 12:55pm

I am not sure what you are asking but alot of this has to do with self esteem and health in my book. So far I have lost 8lbs but that is because I am doing it for me and my health and not for some man down the road and men in the past and

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sat, 02-25-2012 - 5:53pm

I was initially going to say no it doesn't affect me, but in one way it does, I suppose.

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Sat, 02-25-2012 - 6:01pm

I hear you. I want to lose the weight for health and looks.

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Sat, 02-25-2012 - 6:10pm
Music, I was thinking the same thing about attractiveness match-ups the other day. I have seen rather attractive men with heavier women, but I can usually see a smaller version of the woman inside (if that makes sense) and she's always still attractive. It makes me think that she probably just gained weight after having a baby or something. Rarely do you see a very attractive single guy seek out or hit on a woman who isn't thin and beautiful.

I am the same as you in that I don't tend to go for the model or ripped types. I assume they wouldn't like my softness. Now, after I drop the remaining 15 pounds, that might be different. I also find that I tend to base how attractive I feel on a particular night on how many guys look at/talk to me and how attractive they are. I wasn't feeling particularly hot last night (I've been feeling old lately!) and the only guy to try to talk to me was at least ten years older than me and rail thin. He wasn't attractive. So maybe it affects me more than I think it does. I try not to let it happen, but I'd be lying if I didn't admit to it happening sometimes.

I kinda feel like I'm rambling now!
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Registered: 02-26-2011
Sat, 02-25-2012 - 6:33pm

Shy, you wrote "

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Sat, 02-25-2012 - 7:00pm
I do think there's something to be said for not always going out, thinking you're the hottest woman there. Those women annoy me too! There was a woman last night whose top kept exposing more and more of her shoulder/collarbone/breast (covered in a cami, but we did think it was a bra at first). Her costume was Flashdance style, so her shoulder was supposed to be exposed and that's it. She kept showing off on the dance floor and getting in everyone's way. She obviously felt hot, but she also seemed full of herself to me. There's a fine line, I think, between being confident and being conceited. I'd rather just be plain ol' confident with my moments of blah like normal people!
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Registered: 05-10-2005
Sat, 02-25-2012 - 9:37pm

I have gained about 10lbs very slowly over the past 2 years, so also have some clothes which are too tight, and some which fit, but aren't as comfortable as they should be.

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Sat, 02-25-2012 - 10:24pm
That's what I've been trying to do. I'm usually really good until the weekend, then I blow it! I do save up calories so it'll even out, but I need to just keep up being good. Right now, my routine is to exercise on Sunday, Monday, Wednesday, and Thursday. I need to add something on Saturday, but I can't do it after a night out! It doesn't take long to start feeling better, but keeping it up is hard!
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Registered: 01-02-2008
Sat, 02-25-2012 - 11:34pm

I think the more we give energy to negative things about weight and all the

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