Self-Image and dating

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Self-Image and dating
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Sat, 02-25-2012 - 12:28pm

This morning I woke up full of vim and vigor and decided to tidy up my closet.

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Sun, 02-26-2012 - 12:04pm

I glumly admit you are right, Free.

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Sun, 02-26-2012 - 12:57pm

I'm not a very weight conscious person. I could see myself being more anal about it were I super thin in the past, but that isn't the case. I guess it's helped in that, I don't have this itty bitty number hovering over my head. If I feel my belly lapping over my belt a little, I'll cut out snacking as well as try to get outside and move around more. I'm not a gym or treadmill person and diets don't agree with me. I don't enjoy feeling deprived of certain foods(who does though, right?).

I've been thin-ner and I've been not as thin. Weight has never affected my dating life. I'm pretty confident when I'm around guys and I think that's as much of a turn on as being a size 4/6. Now, I'm not always the first person to suggest sex with the lights on but when it comes up (no pun intended) I'll fake my way through what insecurities exist ;)

*Sorry, I hastily responded without reading all the replies! I just have a question for Shy and Marina.

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Sun, 02-26-2012 - 1:19pm

I have never once "gone clubbing" and although I have a vague clue what that means from seeing it on movies, I am not likely to do it myself.

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Sun, 02-26-2012 - 1:36pm
I just go out to be with my friends and have fun. I wouldn't even call it "clubbing" because the places I go aren't real busy and don't play club music most of the time.

A guy usually has to do something to get my attention before I really notice him when I'm out. Usually, that's singing karaoke- and doing it well. But it can also be something simple like holding the door for me or smiling from across the bar. There are some nights when I find myself scanning the room for someone interesting, but that's typically when I'm very much in the mood to flirt.
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Sun, 02-26-2012 - 3:16pm

I don't want to walk around OR engage in sexy time with the lights on.

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Sun, 02-26-2012 - 4:05pm

I believe men have four stages of judgment about women. (Guys, feel free to correct me if I'm wrong).

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Sun, 02-26-2012 - 4:45pm
I personally think all men ask #4, no matter how unattractive they are. Unless they are truly, truly in love, they ask. And then, they eventually do wonder, but their love keeps them from acting on it.
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Sun, 02-26-2012 - 5:57pm

On plastic surgery, I say, if it makes you feel better, why not?

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Sun, 02-26-2012 - 6:14pm

4. IMO that depends on the kind of guy.

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Sun, 02-26-2012 - 6:34pm

I know we've already had the male opinion from xxxs but I really don't think all men end at no. 4--I think very shallow men who only care about sex and not a relationship might feel that way but I really think that most guys aren't just looking for sex--I think they do like the companionship and other things and not just sex--therefore, while a guy might think about whether he can get a hotter woman, that's kind of tempered by the fact that maybe he actually likes you for more than just your body--you know, he actually likes YOU--your personality, the way you both get along, common interests, intellectual compatibility.