The sex factor?

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Registered: 05-23-2003
The sex factor?
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Wed, 05-24-2006 - 10:44pm
How important is the chemistry? Personally, I want a relationship that is highly physical. I love cuddly, touching, kissing, etc ;-) To me, the physical part of the relationship is important, and I find myself sometimes dismissing potential mates just because they don't 'turn me on.' I feel a little bit shallow about this, of course, but it is what it is. Anyway, I usually do go on second dates with my 'lukewarm' boys, because who knows, right? But it generally ends up with me feeling the same. A friend told me tonight, "You can tell within the first 5 minutes whether or not you will sleep with someone. If the answer is no, move on." Any thoughts?


Edited 5/24/2006 11:11 pm ET by waitingforthebus
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Wed, 05-24-2006 - 11:31pm

I don't think you can tell within the first five minutes of knowing someone if you want to sleep with them.

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Fri, 05-26-2006 - 1:23pm

I agree with Shy -- it can take awhile to know for sure if you have that physical chemistry.

After date three or so, if it's not there, it's not likely to be there.

I do think it's an incredibly important aspect to a relationship -- touching (in all forms, from holding hands to sex) helps cement intimacy, in my mind.

AJ, enjoying life with C.