Sex thoughts

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Mon, 02-20-2006 - 10:55am

I think most of us assume that men are sizing us up as a sexual partner the minute they decide we're attractive.

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Mon, 02-20-2006 - 11:18am
Immediately!
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Mon, 02-20-2006 - 1:21pm

For me, there are sort of two (maybe more) different stages to this. When I first meet someone- assuming it's in a date type of environment- I do look at them in this way almost immediately. It's not something I make an effort to do, it just happens.
Later, after I've known them for a while I'm able to decide if I'm attracted to them entirely and that's usually much more powerful.

I don't think there's anything wierd about asking yourself if you're attracted to someone at any stage, especially when you're thinking it without even trying.

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Mon, 02-20-2006 - 1:34pm

I tend to think of it in terms of, "can I imagine kissing this guy and liking it?" If not, I won't go out with him again.

Sheri

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Mon, 02-20-2006 - 2:26pm

I don't think I size a guy up as a sexual partner when I first meet him. I also haven't been on the dating scene for a while so maybe that will change. In the past I remember just looking at someone to see if they are attractive but I didn't immediately think about them in bed. I think the personality of the guy will make me feel more attracted to him though than just his looks.

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Mon, 02-20-2006 - 3:46pm
Well, not to say that I immediately consider sleeping with a guy, but sex crosses my mind pretty quickly. It might not even be the actual act, and it might not even be a conscious thought, but I know long before the relationship has a chance to get to that point if I'd have sex with the guy or not. That's what attraction is all about, isn't it? And, what's the point of letting guys have all the fantasies?

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Mon, 02-20-2006 - 4:36pm

So if you can imagine kissing him, can you always imagine having sex with him?

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Mon, 02-20-2006 - 4:37pm

Yea!

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Mon, 02-20-2006 - 4:41pm

I guess so, because I never think that as a separate question, LOL!

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Mon, 02-20-2006 - 6:27pm

That's a good question, Shy. I think that, for me, it depends on the circumstances. If I meet someone in a dating-potential situation, I definitely think of whether I could be attracted to them or not. If I meet a man at work, on the other hand, not so much. If I am dating someone, I tend to give it a few dates. There was a man that I dated for six months and I had little hope at first. But then our first kiss nearly knocked me off of my feet and I looked at him differently after that. Not just because of the surprise chemistry, but also because I got to know and like him as a person.

But if The Bachelor showed up anywhere, anytime, I KNOW that I would be thinking about attacking him in an embarassingly animalistic way. Some men are just so hot that you can't help but think of sex from the first time that you see them. But not many.

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Tue, 02-21-2006 - 12:50pm
Definitely right away. I don't sleep with someone right away, but I do try to picture the possibility. There has to be some sort of physical attraction and chemistry if it's going to work at all.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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