Sexy, successful…and single?
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Sexy, successful…and single?
| Sun, 10-09-2005 - 11:17pm |
This is just stupid.
http://msn.match.com/msn/article.aspx?articleid=5001&menuid=6&lid=429
And make note of the comments by "relationship expert" John Gray. It cancels out any wisdom that could have been gleaned from this feature, if there was any to glean in the first place.
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>I have my life together and I know lots of people don't.
>I don't quite understand how you can screw up a life as
>much as some have, but those who have will always look at
>women like us who have "it" going for us and be envious.
Shy, wasn't it you who wrote: "I just want it to be my time already, ya know? I've been patient, made a life for myself, done good stuff...what's the hold up?"
I would say that most people who have posted in this thread up to this point are younger than 30. If you are, I highly recommend that you print what you have written and keep it somewhere safe. Read it again when you turn 30 and each year after that. It may be especially helpful during the times when you look at everything you have and wonder why you aren’t happy. You will need to remind yourself that even though you did everything right you still wish “things” were somehow...different. This is when you really begin to question what success really means.
Maybe it's just too early, but I don't quite get the connection between the two statements.
>Maybe it's just too early, but I don't quite
>get the connection between the two statements.
There wasn't a real connection between the two. I just felt what you wrote was curious. In another thread it appeared as if you didn't have your life together because you are alone. I would think that someone who "has their life together" is happy in every sphere, not just one.
>What do you think success really means?
First tell me what you think unsuccessful means.
***It's all about confidence and let's face it, if a women scares a man, than he obviosuly lacks a bit confidence, right???***
Hell, yes, that's right! I live in Chicago, too, so I feel your pain. On top of that, I work for an office in DC (I am the only person who does my job that does not live there) and there are periods of time where I am literally traveling 2 out of every 4 weeks. Makes dating even tougher!
I don't think being alone has anything to do with having your life together.
How many men do you know that are comfortable that their wives, or girlfriends are the bread winners of the house hold or simply make more money than the men do? Most men are uncomfortable with it because men usually associate being bread winners of the house and making more than their wives to status and their pride. You can ask any man you know and if they are not lying to you, they will tell you it's uncomfortable even among their circle of friends. Can they live with it, yes, but given their way, they will not want it to be like that.
I agree with this, however, I think that if men are so intimidated with a woman being successful and making more money than he does- and he can't find a woman who doesn't- he needs to get off of his behind and put some effort into whatever it is that he's doing.
"Just as a side note...have you ever heard a man say "It's so hard to find a successful woman."
Yes, I have. It's been my experience that some men say they want a successful woman or that they want an independent woman but when actually confronted with the genuine article, many times (not all but many) they can't deal. I've had men tell me that they don't think that I would need them. As if being successful professionally negates my needs personally. Sometimes I think that some men (some people when you get right down to it) are intimiated by success because it makes them evaluate themselves and then they feel as if they aren't measuring up. I think they look at someone successful and then think that maybe they should be doing more in their own lives. Secure people will look at someone else who is successful and get inspired and motivated. Insecure people will look for reasons to tear that person down.
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