Shaken but hopeful

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-26-2011
Shaken but hopeful
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Wed, 11-09-2011 - 7:09pm

Well, I did it.

Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
Wed, 11-09-2011 - 7:41pm
Good for you. Now you need to follow through and not pick up the phone when he calls or answer when he texts. That's the really tough part!
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-13-2011
Wed, 11-09-2011 - 8:50pm
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 11-09-2011 - 9:11pm

I know it was hard but you did a good job--it really wasn't fair to keep him as a hanger on either--and now hopefully you are opening up your world for someone better.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-26-2011
Wed, 11-09-2011 - 10:23pm

Thanks, dears.

Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
Wed, 11-09-2011 - 10:41pm
But he needs to delete yours, too. If he texts you, will you recognize the number and not respond? Or will you wonder who it is and ask, leading to an exchange. In a weak moment, that could lead to a decision you'll regret. I always keep exes numbers just so I'll know when not to respond. I don't tend to go back, though, so I'm not ever tempted by the number being there.

Stay strong. I don't think this is the end of the battle.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-26-2011
Wed, 11-09-2011 - 11:26pm

Yeah, I kind of think it is with him.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 11-09-2011 - 11:30pm

Congrats Marina.

I usually find that when the discussion turns to "why" it becomes an argument with the dumpee.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-15-2009
Fri, 11-11-2011 - 2:36pm
Well done Marina! We all know that safetynets are usually what blocks progress. It seems to me that you have finally embraced the fact that you want a real relationship. Or did I miss something? Sometimes it takes coming to terms with what you really want before you can begin taking real positive steps towards what you really want. Its pretty simple.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-21-2006
Wed, 11-16-2011 - 2:01pm

I agree with Shyone. I isually just mark