She makes more.

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Wed, 09-12-2007 - 10:43am

Ok, this came up on another thread. So I want to paint this and see what the thoughts are. Dating seems simple, but take it the next step . . I see it mentioned in passing, but it is interesting to truly think through.


We in America do not have government by the majority. We have government by the majority who participate.

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Wed, 09-12-2007 - 10:54am


For me I care not to discuss academic issues for they are ... well academic and I mingle within my socio-economic range so this won't be a situation that I will likely encounter.

Mark

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Wed, 09-12-2007 - 11:16am
I dated a Dr. for a short time, still see her now and again socially. We got along well, and I always insisted on paying for the dates, just me. Had that gone forward . . .
We in America do not have government by the majority. We have government by the majority who participate.
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Wed, 09-12-2007 - 11:18am

In my experience, it's usually the guy who has a bigger issue with this than the woman.

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Wed, 09-12-2007 - 11:51am

For me I care not to discuss academic issues for they are ... well academic and I mingle within my socio-economic range so this won't be a situation that I will likely encounter.


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Just considering your response. Different for you. (-:


You kind of did answer it. So if you are looking at a profile on a OLD you skip her if the income is high or low in comparison to your own? Are you saying your life does not present opportunities for this to happen, or that you chose not to allow it to happen?


For me, and TG I think might relate to this based on some conversations we have had in the past . .. I go to these business functions. NKBA meetings, Latin Builders, whatever . . and the people I meet can be in sales like me, or a business owner. Honestly I have befriended people that dwarf my example. (Millions) So the "potential" for a spark is always there. I am not sure it is so academic as much as it is something that hasn't come up but could . . .


I am not talking right and wrong, society, all that mess. Just how do people feel about it generally speaking. A lot of girls have posted that if they succeeded, guys move on . . I just stopped and really thought about it some is all.

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Wed, 09-12-2007 - 12:33pm

When I meet someone in real life, I don't ask their income but I don't mingle in high end circles where the income level is high such as $100/plate charity benefits at the art museum.

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Wed, 09-12-2007 - 3:07pm
I have firsthand experience with this because I make quite a bit more than my boyfriend does. He absolutely has no issue with this and he's comfortable in his own skin and doesn't feel threatened one bit by it and happy for me that I'm where I'm at with my career. I had some internal issues with this for a bit but am resolving them now and they are not nearly as much of an issue now that I have been with him for 11 months and we are getting used to this idea and adjusting. I'm looking more at the great qualities that he has and not bothered by the money thing anymore. I think it was just me getting used to this idea and filtering out the social stigmas and what others say around me and knowing that he won't take advantage of this fact and he does pull his weight in a lot of other areas. I think it's a matter of how each person in the relationship is able to pull their weight and what they can bring to the table. If a man was making a lot less than me and refused to help me in other ways like cleaning and house stuff then I would have a problem with that.
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Wed, 09-12-2007 - 3:51pm

>>If a man was making a lot less than me and refused to help me in other ways like cleaning and house stuff then I would have a problem with that.<<

A situation like that is doomed from the start. It's only a matter of time before the bum gets kicked out, whether or not he helps around the house.

Here are the guidelines (tongue in cheek) for a happy relationship.

1. If the woman makes < 100 K, she should make no more than 66.67% of the man.

2. If she makes > 100 K, the man should make >= 2X what the woman makes.

3. In the ideal case the woman should make nothing at all. She would be in the kitchen barefoot and pregnant, toddler in one arm and stirring the pot with the other while onion tears roll down her cheeks. Her # 1 priority would be take care of her man -- feed him, pleasure him, do his laundry, raise their children and keep the house neat and tidy and homely.. In return -- she would get a roof over her head, food on the table (well in the fridge actually, she will have to cook it before it's ready for the table), and TWO whole minutes of nocturnal pleasure twice a week (of course the man would get a lot longer than two when he is out for "business meetings", but that's beside the point).




Edited 9/12/2007 4:15 pm ET by capegirardeau
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Wed, 09-12-2007 - 4:14pm

If I made that much money...WOW....I would consider myself so lucky, indeed.


However, I could see it bring up issues with relationships.

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Wed, 09-12-2007 - 4:35pm

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Wed, 09-12-2007 - 4:47pm

>>Oh, I have to add about the $100 dollar a plate charity events.

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