She makes more.

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She makes more.
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Wed, 09-12-2007 - 10:43am

Ok, this came up on another thread. So I want to paint this and see what the thoughts are. Dating seems simple, but take it the next step . . I see it mentioned in passing, but it is interesting to truly think through.


We in America do not have government by the majority. We have government by the majority who participate.

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Wed, 09-12-2007 - 8:20pm

I hate to say this and, of course I don't speak for all men...but my mom used to say that (I should add most) men need to feel superior in some ways to their women...either richer or more intelligent.


If this is true, it sure explains why so many attractive, smart professional women have a harder time getting married.


Soliel
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Wed, 09-12-2007 - 9:29pm

When I land the job I'm looking to get in the next year, I wouldn't have a problem at all.

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Wed, 09-12-2007 - 9:38pm

>>Sounds a bit like your mom, no?? <<

I have been looking for a replacement for God knows how long! ; >

Here is a companion story from Reuters: (Google: 'Sicily Mother 61' )
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ROME (Reuters) - A Sicilian mother took away her 61-year-old son's house keys, cut off his allowance and hauled him to the police station because he stayed out late.

Tired of her son's misbehavior, the retiree in the central Sicilian city of Caltagirone turned to the police to "convince this blockhead" to behave properly, La Sicilia, one of Sicily's leading newspapers, reported on Thursday.

The son responded by saying his mother did not give him a big enough weekly allowance and did not know how to cook.

"My son does not respect me, he doesn't tell me where he's going in the evenings and returns home late," the woman was quoted as saying. "He is never happy with the food I make and always complains. This can't go on."

Police helped the squabbling duo make up and the two returned home together, with the son's house keys and daily allowance restored.

Most Italian men still live at home late into their 30s, enjoying their "mamma's" cooking, washing and ironing.




Edited 9/12/2007 9:46 pm ET by capegirardeau
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Wed, 09-12-2007 - 9:45pm

The chances of a guy making less than me and still having the ambition that I would need to be happy with him are pretty slim.

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Wed, 09-12-2007 - 10:09pm

My marriage ended and some of it had to do with this subject.


He was cool about things when we met, dated, lived together, etc.

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Thu, 09-13-2007 - 2:08am

I am in a similar situation. I gave away the farm and my former spouse has been effectively retired since our 18 yr old son was born. I cannot see myself ever retiring considering the divorce decree, etc. plus I was out of work for about 4 years (post divorce) and still made the support payments.

Now to explain how much of a "catch" I am with the women in my age group (50s) who are retired ... that's why I look to younger and/or lower income mates - similar lifestyle situations.

Mark

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Thu, 09-13-2007 - 7:48am

I think this income thing really

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Thu, 09-13-2007 - 9:39am

>>Most Italian men still live at home late into their 30s, enjoying their "mamma's" cooking, washing and ironing.


Huh, I didn't know that....maybe that's part of the reason for their notoriously chauvinistic viewpoints...ie I need a woman to cook and clean for me and that's pretty much it.

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Registered: 07-13-2007
Thu, 09-13-2007 - 10:39am

Then once we were married a little while he decided he didnt need to work.


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This is a leach, be it a man or a woman. He coned you, and did not hold up his end of the bargain.

We in America do not have government by the majority. We have government by the majority who participate.
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Registered: 10-14-2001
Thu, 09-13-2007 - 12:09pm

Mark


What you said was totally understandable.


We definitely do feel more comfortable around people with the same budget.

Soliel

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