is she serious? or just playing games?
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| Mon, 03-26-2007 - 8:23am |
its a long distance thing. we were dating i saw her everyother week for 8 months. she now claims were friends cuz she should have more feelings for me at this point. i have offered to moved closer to her and she said she would only beable to see me once a week anyway untill she can finish school about a year. we talk two times a day at least. she says she likes me scale from 1-10, 10 being highest i get a 9. but, i dont want to be her friend and im afriad waiting a year i will make solid friend status and never get to date her. i dont want to let her go either. additionally, we joke around about getting married. when i ask her if she thinks we will she would say, "you don't think so?" i know she isn't dating or see anyone. she even said that if i was able to pay for all her needs she would move closer to me. i live in sacramento and she lives in la.
what i dont understand is last time i saw her i was under the impression that her and i were dating again yet to find out i was just hanging out with her as a friend. i was upset and felt hurt. that night she claimed that if i didnt move down to her this summer then she was moving on. that nightnshe also wanted to kiss me but i was sick at the time. going back to moving on and his summer... i brought up the issue of what she said and she claims not remember saying it. she was a little drunk but still. now that i have proposed my push to do so she has told me she wont have time for me anyway and just to wait.
what is going on here? is she just messing with me for fun and games? is she serious? can i test her in ways to get answers out of her? im i baing a passive panzy? she the perfect girl except this issue and this might be a big one. or im i being insecure?

It doesn't sound like a very promising situation.
Okay, gotcha.
Edited 3/27/2007 7:55 am ET by lovinhockey17
Smile,
Deirdre
Exactly and long distance isnt an excuse either. Long distance works with solid communication, trust, honesty and an end point. I decided to go to grad school to get my MA and my SO has been behind me 100% of the time. Two years later, we're still together and getting married. Was it easy? Heck no. But its worth it, if its something that both people want. And if she's getting a BA, there is NO and I mean NO excuse for her not to be able to maintain a relationship. Schooling at a higher level than that, perhaps its not as easy...but its still possible.
I say move on dude, she isnt as serious about it as you are which is KEY in a LDR.