Is she serious?

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Registered: 01-23-2007
Is she serious?
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Tue, 01-23-2007 - 2:44am
Hi im currently seeing my ex girlfriend.We have been seeing each other 3 months almost 4.We have known each other for 13yrs. and 4 of those we were absent without any communication or seeing her.But since we hooked back up everything has been good we have grown in love with each other and we tell each other we love one another and that were in love.She also has a 3 yr old too just to put that out there.Anyway We have spent like everyday of December except 3 days with each other.Were always seeing one another and spending a lot of time.She has gotten into me so much that she tells her child to tell me she loves me 2.But the thing is we dont go together.I have recently tried to start a relationship with her at least the B/F G/F stage but each time she has an excuse.She has been telling me she wants to be with me and she can see us married raising her child together but she wont give us as a souple a chance.Her excuse at first was we need to know each other better then i let some time pass then it was she didnt want to rush she wanted to make sure this is it.Ive tried a few times but getting irritated.I feel that she's just not ready but she says that she is and that confuses me.What could it be, im thinking about walking because the more time we spend i fall more for her.She says she want us to be us when shes ready and on her terms.I have waited for some time now but there's a such thing as being a fool, what should I do?

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Registered: 11-01-2005
Thu, 01-25-2007 - 4:14pm

Oh, boy. I've been there - went back to an ex and spent a couple of years hoping, hearing what I wanted to hear, expecting him to live up to all the promises. The promises never came true.

I say follow your gut. After knowing you for 13 years, she should KNOW you well enough to decide if she wants to be with you or not.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 01-23-2007
Thu, 02-01-2007 - 2:56am
Ok some days have went by.Now i have talked to her, but remember when I asked her the first time about us being together she said we needed to date first.Then later on after some time I just wanted to see where her head was.I wanted to see if she had been giving us some thought.She told me the time wasn't right and she didnt want to rush.Ok when I talked to her recently she gave me the excuse that I had just got out an relationship and it wasnt fair that I jump into a new one this soon with her.I told her that the relationship was over before it officially ended.Ya know when you've been with someone but there's no connection anymore you both stopped trying and you stay with them anyway because your used to them.Thats how it was.I really was over that relationship before it was over.Plus its not up to her to decide if im ready.I know if im ready and I am because I would not try to be with her if i wasnt.Im thinking about leaving her alone because im tired of the excuses.Seems like she's not ready for a relationship or just dont wanna be with me.But she still constanly tells me she wants to be with me.She also says the time is just not right.I dont know what that means maybe she wants to wait until her birthday then say yes or no.

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