Shopping for men

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Shopping for men
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Sat, 12-15-2012 - 9:34am

I have to say, each Christmas that I'm single, I'm thankful that I don't have to buy for a boyfriend or husband.  They are the hardest people to shop for.  I did finally get a list from my 21 year old nephew (he wants clothes, thankfully- that's easy), but my stepdad and brother in law...I'm lost.  I don't ever get them anything too big, but I like to get them something.  My stepdad likes to fish, bowl, and hunt.  My brother in law...hmm...he knits...and watches tv.  And eats. 

Any help?  Suggestions?  I'm not a fan of giving gift cards.  I like to get gifts for the thought, not just to say I'm giving a gift. 

 

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Registered: 04-11-2013
Thu, 04-11-2013 - 1:03pm
Men don't seem to be as big on surprises as women, so you might be able to just ask him what he wants, or for a few options.
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Registered: 12-03-2006
Wed, 12-19-2012 - 7:43pm

Oh, from the title of your post, I thought you meant you were looking for a man :) :)

Anyhoo, I've done away with buying gifts for adults since it's so wasteful. Unless you're really close to the person and know what they really want. Most of the time what they want you can't afford so you end up buying less expensive things they don't need. 

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In reply to: xxxs
Mon, 12-17-2012 - 7:23pm

  Shy I too am having problems posting.

Goldfish

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Sun, 12-16-2012 - 7:48pm
I typed out a response last night, then got an error message when I tried to post it. Then when I tried to report the error message, it wouldn't post. I was hoping both would just show up, but they didn't. So frustrating. Anyway, I remain anti-gift card. The only exception is if they are for a service. My mom texted me yesterday and said my stepdad needs new tennis shoes. Not glamorous, but apparently he won't buy them for himself. I got him a good pair, not the cheapie ones my mom buys him. Hopefully he'll like the upgrade. I remembered I had gotten some fleece to make my brother-in-law a blanket, so I'm going to go with that for him. He has one that's far too small and threadbare. Strange since my sister crotchets blankets all the time. She has an entire room dedicated to yarn, which is why he took up knitting. Now it's my 15 year old niece that's the problem. She only wants money. I refuse to give a 15 year old who's been in trouble for drugs money. At this point, she's getting some mid-priced hair care products (because she's fried her hair dying it so much) from me, and maybe some socks and underwear. She doesn't appreciate anything, so I don't feel guilty not giving her exactly what she wants. I can't wait until this next week is over. I'm so stressed out, and I still have a ton of wrapping to do, plus make two blankets and some sewing. Today is the first day in a week that I haven't felt crappy, and that's probably because I got the chance to rest. I didn't get nearly as much done today as I'd hoped.
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Registered: 01-25-2010
Sun, 12-16-2012 - 3:36pm

 I am voting for a cash gift card that can be spent anywhere.  I don't go to resturants much (once in the last year). 

Goldfish

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Registered: 05-10-2012
Sat, 12-15-2012 - 11:04pm

Gotta say, I really think that most guys are happy with gift cards.  My mother bought her brother a Kuerig in Aug for his Christmas gift.  He texted her early this week that he bought himself one and found 8 o'clock coffee in k-cups.  She is devestated and texted him back something along the lines of 'Well, there goes your Christmas gift' His response?  'That's why I give gift cards'   I do think that if you know WHAT they like, a specifc GC is just fine.  I told her to take all the money she had spent on the Kuerig and turn it into a GC for K-cups.  

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Registered: 05-14-1999
Sat, 12-15-2012 - 3:36pm
My dad loves grooming gadgets like electric nose/ear hair trimmers or shavers. He also loves GC's to his favorite restaurants. My brother loves nice shirts or again, restaurant GC's. Good luck!
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Registered: 01-02-2008
Sat, 12-15-2012 - 2:27pm

I am glad you posted this shy because I cant figure out what to get my son and his gfriend.. I am trying to make it a gift for both as they have everything.. I at first thought of some sports thing as they are sports nuts but have no clue.. the gfriend works at Lowes so she has just about everything ..

I am def. leaning towards those gift baskets filled with food and goodies.. or maybe a memorabilia sports team shirt or sweatshirt or jacket..

thank you

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Registered: 06-03-2009
Sat, 12-15-2012 - 1:52pm

I don't like giving gift cards either, but I agree that guys are very hard to shop for.  In my opinion it is either because their interests are so limited they already have everything they need for them or they just don't have any interests.  And then you have to consider how your gift will be perceived.  Since you're shopping for male relatives you have way more choices, but if it were a boyfriend?  Clothes or household items would probably remind him of something his mom would get him.

So your stepdad likes to fish.  Does he also gut them and such himself?  If so there are always new gadgets being made to make that process easier.  You could always head to a fish supply place and check out the options.  Same goes for hunting if he then prepares the animals himself.

For the brother in law....what kind of eats?  For foodies I'm a big fan of those of the month clubs such as this one.  Since he also likes tv you could look at a hulu plus or netflix gift certificate.

Do either of them drink?  If so you could find mini bottles of whatever they fancy as a nice gift.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sat, 12-15-2012 - 12:03pm

Can you get BIL a gift certificate to a yarn store?  I think it's hard buying for guys just because if we are buying for women, we can get stuff that we like.  My DD is so easy to buy for since we have the same taste.  My 17 yr old DS told me a book he wants, but he really does want GCs.  Last year he probably got $100 worth of GCs to Starbucks and he was thrilled.  But for my exH, yes he liked sports, but there's only so much sports equipment that he would need, and not like I could really pick out a baseball glove or something like that--and only so many Red Sox shirts that one person would want.

I'll tell you what's hard too--buying gifts for my 86 yr old mother & 82 yr old aunt who live together.  They don't want more stuff for the house, they don't really need more clothes.  They do like going out to eat so it's usually restaurant GCs.

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