Should I ask???

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Registered: 01-21-2007
Should I ask???
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Wed, 05-09-2007 - 5:43pm

Okay, so here is the story. I have worked with this guy for a little over a month now at a restaurant, and I see him about once a week. We get along really well, and we are very flirty when we work. Example: always try to somehow touch eachother whenever we go by eachother, chatting during down time, but some of it is flirty chatting (?) if that makes sense. Okay, so my manager says that he likes me, but he is a slow mover, so I am not expecting a move from him for a while, if at all. HOwever, I have a wedding to go to in June, and I can and would like to bring a date. I don't have many options in the guy department that I would enjoy taking to a wedding, but I think he would be a really fun date. Now here is my question, would it be okay for me to casually ask him if he would want to go, tell him I have this wedding and I think he would be a fun date? Or is that weird? I just want to ask him because I don't much to lose other than the fact that if he says no, I still have to work with him, but whatever, I can get over my pride :) but just wondering if you think that is an appropriate thing to ask him to? I am hoping it might help to break the ice between us too.

THank you for reading this and any advice would be appreciated!

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In reply to: nerunnr
Wed, 05-09-2007 - 6:39pm
Well, first of all, I would wait until about two weeks before the wedding. Second, is there a way you could hint while you two are working? Like: "I have a wedding to go to on _____. I wish I had a date." -- Or something along those lines. If he doesn't take the bait, you would at least have an ice breaker. Example: "Okay, I was hoping that you would take pity on me and ask me if I would like for you to be my date but since you didn't . . ."
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In reply to: nerunnr
Wed, 05-09-2007 - 6:46pm
Thank you for the advice! My only dilemma is that I need to RSVP myself and a datethree weeks before the wedding, and I go out of town the week before that. So if I asked him, it would be about four weeks before the wedding. He also works about 3 jobs, so I wanted to give him time to get that situated if he wanted to go. I am also hoping that will help break the ice so we can hang out before the wedding. But is that too soon to ask him?
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In reply to: nerunnr
Wed, 05-09-2007 - 7:14pm

Unless you make it crystal clear that this is just intended to be *two friends* going to the wedding together, there's no way in heck I'd ask a guy to go to a wedding as a first date!

But after just a month, you haven't known him long enough to have that make sense--so no, I wouldn't ask him. A cup of coffee, sure. A wedding--no way jose.

Sheri

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In reply to: nerunnr
Wed, 05-09-2007 - 7:34pm
I don't think so, go for it. Good luck.
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In reply to: nerunnr
Wed, 05-09-2007 - 7:48pm
hmm...good point. Maybe I should just ask him to hang out or something and start from there. I don't know. But that still puts me out of a date for the wedding. Oh well, thank you for your advice!
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In reply to: nerunnr
Thu, 05-10-2007 - 10:30am

I'm kind of with Sheri on this one...do you *have* to have a date to the wedding?