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Should I call?
| Wed, 05-03-2006 - 11:25am |
Hey everyone:
I have a dilemma that may appear silly, but it's something that's been on my mind for days, and I still don't have an answer so I thought I'd ask your advice.
I met a guy at a bar a few days ago, and we spent some time talking. i'd met him once before but at that point, we didn't really talk, apart from chit-chatting during a card game.
Anyway afterward he offered me a ride home, but I declined because my friend said he'd pick me up. However, I stood outside the bar waiting for a while but my friend didn't show up. So this guy drives by and again offers me a ride. Not seeing any sign of my friend, I agree. So he picks me up and on the way home, we talk and he tells me he doesn't go out that much but occasionally enjoys dinner and a movie, sounding like he's hinting at a date sometime. So i get bold and ask him if he'd like to get together sometime, and he agrees he'd like that, then asks for my number. He takes my number but I neglect to ask for his...
4 days later, he hasn't called, and I'd like to see him. So my question is would it be appropriate to ask a friend for his number and then call him? Or should I wait until I hear from him?
He appears to be a shy guy who doesn't date much, so I'm almost sure if he doesn't call, or if it takes a while for him to call, it's because he's nervous.
I was just thinking of giving him a quick call to ask him if he'd like some company over the weekend (he lives alone) or something casual like that.
What do you think?
Thanks for your input!
I have a dilemma that may appear silly, but it's something that's been on my mind for days, and I still don't have an answer so I thought I'd ask your advice.
I met a guy at a bar a few days ago, and we spent some time talking. i'd met him once before but at that point, we didn't really talk, apart from chit-chatting during a card game.
Anyway afterward he offered me a ride home, but I declined because my friend said he'd pick me up. However, I stood outside the bar waiting for a while but my friend didn't show up. So this guy drives by and again offers me a ride. Not seeing any sign of my friend, I agree. So he picks me up and on the way home, we talk and he tells me he doesn't go out that much but occasionally enjoys dinner and a movie, sounding like he's hinting at a date sometime. So i get bold and ask him if he'd like to get together sometime, and he agrees he'd like that, then asks for my number. He takes my number but I neglect to ask for his...
4 days later, he hasn't called, and I'd like to see him. So my question is would it be appropriate to ask a friend for his number and then call him? Or should I wait until I hear from him?
He appears to be a shy guy who doesn't date much, so I'm almost sure if he doesn't call, or if it takes a while for him to call, it's because he's nervous.
I was just thinking of giving him a quick call to ask him if he'd like some company over the weekend (he lives alone) or something casual like that.
What do you think?
Thanks for your input!

Hey Lady! Well, this is a toughy. We women will always be bothered by a man not calling us huh? And then all those "what ifs" run through our heads...What if he lost my number? What if he is just really nervous? Well, I don't think you should call him. You don't want to come across as being too aggressive or desperate. I think you should just go back to that same hang out where you've seen him before and hope that he shows up! Just be very friendly and don't make a deal out of him not calling. Always be a good friend no matter what! Long lasting relationships are built upon a solid friendship. I hope it works out for you! Keep us posted!!
Oh, and Mahatma Gandhi said it best, "Patience means self-suffering." You'll be okay Girl!
-Lydia
Thanks for your input. It's given me something to think about and perhaps enabled me not to act too soon. I'm just wondering, though, if, in your experience, guys usually call when they say they will? I'm just trying to guage his interest level because he's shy and thus the signals he sends that he's interested might be more subtle, and I want to have kind of an idea what I can anticipate with him.
Thanks!
~LL
Oh, no, don't call him.
That, in my opinion, is a way of saying "I'll maybe call if I get around to it and feel lonely enough."