Should I contact him??

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Registered: 09-19-2006
Should I contact him??
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Thu, 01-04-2007 - 12:43pm

Hi all,

I would love some opinions on this one. I met this guy who seems to be a great catch. The issue however is that I hooked up with him while drunk (we just madeout a little nothing too crazy) this passed weekend and I am not sure if he is actually interested. I gave him my number but he hasn't called me yet. He seemed like he could be interested in more but since he hasn't called me I am not too sure. He gave me his card and I wonder if I should contact him. In hindsight, I feel like I was acting kind of stupid and said some dumb things while I was drunk...so I am a little embarrased about it which makes me not want to call or email him. But if he is at all interested I would like to see him again and show him that I am not a total fool!!

I met him last Saturday night so its been about a week. Should I wait longer or should I just let it go?

I know its probaly better if he calls me but it seems like the guys that are calling me and seem interested I don't really like. So maybe if I make the effort it could be someone worth it?

Any advice here??

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Registered: 07-21-2004
Thu, 01-04-2007 - 1:04pm
You could contact him if you want to, but I'd be more inclined to wait and see if he called first.

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Registered: 06-20-2006
Thu, 01-04-2007 - 4:30pm
I would say go for it. What do you really have to lose.
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Thu, 01-04-2007 - 9:01pm
If you don't mind (possible) rejection and won't mind waiting to find out if he's going along with this to see what he can get out of it, I'd say go ahead and contact him. Like Chicago girl said, you don't have anything to lose. If he's a good guy, a guy worth putting yourself out there for, then he isn't going to care one way or the other. You know? Only an a-hole would blow you off and you wouldn't want a guy who won't give himself a chance to get to know someone, anyway. I used to play silly games, and always put so much stock into it all but the older I get, the more I just don't care. If the person is good hearted, games don't matter, "rules" are not needed.
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Registered: 09-19-2006
Thu, 01-04-2007 - 11:26pm

Thanks so much to all of you for the advice. I think you are right, if he is worth it and a nice guy he will probaly respond.

I'll you know if I ever hear from him:)

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Registered: 01-05-2007
Fri, 01-05-2007 - 12:16am
Absolutely. What's the worst that can happen? He can be distant and you'll get the hint or he'll be excited to hear from you and you can go from there. It's scary I know 'cause I did it. The guy was too nervous to call me and thought I'd want nothing to do with him so he just didn't bother.
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Registered: 09-19-2006
Fri, 01-05-2007 - 1:18pm

Ok, i sent an email. I think it was good...we'll see what happens!!

Thanks for the advice!

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Registered: 09-19-2006
Fri, 01-12-2007 - 5:02pm

okay...update.

So I emailed him and he ended up calling me late night Friday...he was drunk and I had just come home from the bar myself. He came over with a friend and we hung out and played cards and he stayed over (his friend left) and we made out again (nothing crazy). It was fun but he seems more immature then I remember from the first time we met. So I haven't contacted him since Saturday morning when he left. He asked if he would see me again soon and I said sure. But no word from him...again. Not even an email this week to just say hi. I just feel like he doesn't want to make the effort...I was hoping I had met someone good but no dice:(