Should I contact him or not?
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|Sun, 05-12-2013 - 6:29pm|
To recap for those few who might not already know--met a guy at a dance, he asked me out once and then showed up at a dance camp (instruction followed by dinner dance) that I went to in April. He was supposed to go to a dance I had signed up for the next week but didn't go--he texted me a few days later to say he was too busy that day. I haven't heard from him since & that was May 1.
Friday night I went out with a meetup group and one of the people there was a woman I have known for a while who happens to be his ex GF (they broke up more than a year ago, he has had another GF since but they are still friendly). She knows the whole story, so she asked me if I had heard from him. I told her about the text--I had wondered if she had said something to him, but she didn't so I feel it's better than he texted me on his own w/o prompting. She said why don't you just put your feelings for him out there and see what he says instead of being confused about whether he's interested in me or just likes me as a friend--that is so totally unlike me to do that. I do not like taking the initiative. My dance school is having a dance though on June 1 and I (along with some other women) are going to do a show number--costumes and everything. I was thinking about inviting him but I really don't want to say that I'm interested in him--I figure if he just says no, that he's busy & doesn't suggest anything else, I can get the message w/o having it spelled out.