Should I kiss him? Im confused..
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| Wed, 07-11-2007 - 10:00pm |
Sorry this is long...
There is this guy who I met thru a female friend. This guy also has a male cousin who is also a friend of our female friend. He is much younger than me. Im 36 he is like 24 or 23 or something. I met him for the first time February of this year and the times I have hang out with him only l3 times and those 3 times I have hanged out with him has been accompanied with our mutual female friend, because like friends we have hanged out. The other times this guy and I have been in contact has been thru messenger only, in fact the last time I have hanged out with me was like 3 months ago. Today we were chatting over the messenger and he asked me if I have spoken with our mutual friend. I said no and he said that he has talked to her but to say hi and to know how is she, etc
During our chat conversation, he asked me like teasing me: “hey how are your dates so far”. I responded him, I don’t have any dates nor Im dating anyone. Then he asked me, since when I did not had a boyfriend or dated, I responded I never had a boyfriend before or dated in my life. Then he replied how come and if I don’t like or miss having a boyfriend or a date I just replied him “perhaps”. After those questions about dates, he told me he wanted to confess me something, which he hoped that after he told me I did not change towards him.
He told me that the last time we saw each other (our female friend, the cousin, he and me) at our female friend’s house, he thought of something to do to me but he backed off That night was like a informal gathering of acquaintances so there were some beers involved. I mean I don’t drink at all, what I drank that night was half of a beer and that was it. The other guys drank a bit more but not the extreme, just normal amount. (like 3) So this guy´s cousin was teasing him about the female friend that he liked her, but he thought that since he was drinking perhaps he was just joking. So the cousin said no, he was not after the female friend, in fact he did not like her at all, she is a good friend but that is all, he is not attracted to her.
So the cousin told him so why did not he go after me. All of this happened at a time these 2 guys were alone in the living room and my female friend and I were in the kitchen preparing the snacks for the night. So this friend told me during our chat today, that he wanted to kiss me that night but he did not do it because he did not know what would have been my reaction toward that since it would have been out of nothing. After he told me that, he asked me now that u know, what do u think about it? Do you think you would have reciprocated me to that kiss?
This really caught me off guard, I t was a total surprise to me, because the only 3 times we have hanged out in person, he never gave me any signs that he likes me, I mean I remember he asked me questions about my life but like very ver personal questions he never asked. I did sense something that he liked me, or found me attractive because he asked me questions about me but I thought it was normal between friends that kind of conversation and not necessarily mean that he liked me.
So today over the chat he confessed me that and he wanted to know my answer, since I already know what he thought of me, he wanted to know if I would have kissed him back at that time. I did not what to answer, I told him that was a surprise for me what he just told me but since I was starting to grasp what he told me I did not give him a direct answer. I did told him that I sensed something about him feeling attracted toward me but never really paid attention or focus on it, so he replied: “Really? Was I that noticeable?”
Then he asked me Do you think u would like to kiss me now if see each other in person?
I never gave him an answer because I was at work and my boss called me at that time so I had to leave the messenger and could not chat again. When I returned he already was offline but he wrote something before, he wrote “Im not going to beg for a kiss”, Im not going to ask you more questions about this issue it seems you don’t like to answer it”.
Now Im really confused, it seems he likes me and feel attracted toward me until now he confessed me that. I do believe he likes to kiss me the next time we see each other, he already was open to me and said it, but our encounter will be a bit uncomfortable I guess knowing that when we see each other, our encounter won’t be like before, like friends who talk, it will be different.
Should I kiss this guy the next time I see him? I mean physically I don’t feel attracted toward him, he seems like a nice guy, but physically he is not my type, He is just a nice guy, but I don’t like him. I don’t want to hurt his feelings, knowing he was honest with me today and told me what he felt. Should I let him kiss me, just to please he so he feels satisfied kissing me or it is better not let him to kiss me because I don’t feel attracted to him? I have to be honest here also Im 36 and I have never ever had a boyfriend or dated in my life therefore I have never kissed a guy before. I know that tomorrow over the messenger he will like to talk to me and wait for an answer.
| Thu, 07-12-2007 - 2:49pm |
| Fri, 07-13-2007 - 11:13am |
