Should I stop seeing him?

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Registered: 08-10-2003
Should I stop seeing him?
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Sat, 11-12-2005 - 4:00pm

Hey guys, I need some advise...

There is this guy that I'm very good friends with and have been for a couple years now (we go to college together), we both like each other but sometimes he backs off and gets distant from me. My best friend told me that it may be partly because of this other guy that I hang out with. I'm a Christian and so is my friend, but this other guy isn't...I've been friends with him for about a year now, we don't see each other very often but we do hang out now and then and I'm pretty sure that he likes me as well. I'm trying to figure out if I should stop seeing this other guy to make my friend that I like happy, or if I should continue to be friends with him because I shouldn't not befriend somebody because somebody tells me not to. I think I need to think this out clearly...help! Thanks!

-C

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Registered: 12-03-2003
Sat, 11-12-2005 - 5:00pm
I don't think you should stop being friends with somebody just because your other friend doesn't like him. If you don't want to be friends with this person, then stop. If on the other hand you are stoping just because of this guy you like, then that's a problem. You have a mind of your own and you are an independent person who's allowed to choose her friends. Granted some of your friends may not like each other but that doens't mean you quit being friends with them. Could it be that the guy you like thinks the other guy is a competition? If that's the case, let him know that you two are nothing more but friends. I doubt the guy you like will stop being friends with some of his female friends just because you don't like them or you are uncomfortable with their friendship. Good luck.
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Sat, 11-12-2005 - 5:12pm

That depends on who makes your decisions.