Should I wait for him to approach me?
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| Fri, 12-09-2005 - 2:25pm |
Ok - in a nutshell, there's this guy at the gym. I see him there the same night every week. We exchange glances and smiles, and I think there's mutual interest. This has been going on for awhile.
The problem is, the gym is such an awkward place to start a conversation. I feel "on display" to all the other people working out and, being sort of shy, I just can't walk right up to this guy in front of everyone. Also, he hangs out in the free weights - while I use the circuit machines and cardio equipment across the room.
So, should I wait for him to approach me?
Also, I know I am not a very approachable person. I know I come across as being in my own little world, and guys I've dated in the past have commented that they were nervous to talk to me at first. I would LOVE some advice on how to make myself more approachable both in this gym situation and in general. I hope to get advice from the guys and girls on this one.
Thanks in advance!

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You're attracted to him alot and I know that feeling.
Believe me, I've been there numerous times. Sometimes it's worked in my favor but largely I've found myself losing interest because I got tired of myself being approachable and they not taking bait. Many reasons they weren't taking bait was because they had girlfriends that I didn't know about but seemed to love to see me light up and smile at their mere presence.
Hon. I love men to death. I really do. But I also know that many of them like to flirt for their own egos.
I wish you luck though. Like you said if it doesn't work out, it won't be the end of the world. It just opens your eyes a little wider and broadens your experiences. I know it did for me as I've been down that road numerous times.
You can disagree with me and I can disagree with you but I respect your opinion just the same.
I agree with you 100%
I'm like you as well and that if I do like someone, sometimes from my being shy, I tend to hide it and I don't show it. But if I feel he is interested, I will atleast smile and say hello and even make conversation.
If he still doesn't take bait, then something's not right and I don't want to waste my time anymore because I'd think I'm reading something more into the situation or maybe there's a girl or he's not that into me.
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