Should I wait for his call, or call 1st?

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Registered: 04-03-2007
Should I wait for his call, or call 1st?
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Tue, 04-03-2007 - 6:48pm
I met a guy over the weekend, and we exchanged numbers. I want to call him, but I feel as though I should wait at least three days. After three days, should I call him or just assume he's not interested. I'm not concerned that he hasn't called yet, but wondering if I should call first, or if that would make me appear desperate?
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Registered: 10-16-2006
Tue, 04-03-2007 - 8:36pm

Hi Scorpion,

I say let him call you, whether it takes 3 days or 3 weeks. Speaking from experience, I have always regretted calling a man in the beginning. If a man is interested in you, he will call.

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Registered: 08-29-2003
Wed, 04-04-2007 - 12:08pm
I would wait a few more days and then call him. I think that rule of "men should call first" is a bit outdated, at least here it is lol Maybe he's thinking the same thing you are, he might be worried to come across as desperate if he calls you already. What do you have to lose? Just go for it!



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Registered: 03-31-2007
Wed, 04-04-2007 - 9:11pm
Naw, I wouldn't call first ever. Don't play with nature.
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Thu, 04-05-2007 - 1:49pm

#1 Rule of dating: If a man is interested and available, he'll call you.

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Registered: 05-04-2007
Fri, 05-04-2007 - 5:50pm
I went to a local hang out after work one night and met this guy that was plays there. I gave him my number and surpringly he called me shortly after his gig. I didn't talk to him for a few days after so I decided to call him. We ended up hanging out a couple nights later. We had such a good time he ended up calling and asking me out yet again. I say call him. Who knows...he could be wondering if he should call you. These days it seems like the guy leaves it up to the girl anyway.
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Registered: 05-14-1999
Sat, 05-05-2007 - 2:12pm
I used to over analyze everything, counted days, etc. It didn't make any difference. Either the guy is interested or he isn't. Whether you call first or not I don't think it will change anything in the end. What do you have to lose? At least you can stop wondering about if and when . . .