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| Thu, 03-30-2006 - 12:05pm |
Should you e-mail/call a guy to say 'thank you' after a date?
- Yes, call
- Yes, e-mail
- No
You will be able to change your vote.

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I have heard conflicting opinions about whether or not you should e-mail or call a guy to say thank you after a date.
Does it make you look too eager, or is it a nice gesture? Proper etiquette, or going overboard?
I'd love to see your votes and hear your reasons why. In the past, I have always e-mailed the guy to say "thanks, I had a nice time." Just curious what you all think.
AJ, enjoying life with C.
Thank him after the date.
It's one of those things that you can ask "how would I have handled this before there was email"?
Of course, I'm old enough to remember how it was before email. LOL
I usually email because I know I'm hard to read.
Oh, great. There's a three-way tie. I'm so confused.
The general consensus seems to be say thank you to show I'm interested (I am), but I am feeling like that will appear overeager with this guy. Hmm.
AJ, enjoying life with C.
I think what the poll shows is that everyone needs to find their own style. So do whatever feels most comfortable for you.
I personally will not call or email him after a date to thank him. I will tell him at the end of the date that I had a great time and I was very glad we went out. From there, it's up to him to pick up the ball and run with it!
Don't you thank him while you're ON the date? That's what I think the polite thing to do is. I'd only email him afterwards if I somehow forgot my manners and didn't thank him while we were out.
Sheri
tallgirl,
IMO: *Brevity* is key and you can't really do that with a phone conversation, so a phonecall after the date would come across as too eager. However, a short text or e-mail is acceptable. A woman sent a text to me after a date and it was nice, it simply said, "I had a nice time tonight". E-mail saying the same is just as good. If you can't write it in 10 words or less, DON'T write anything, you will only increase the odds of saying something completely stupid :-)
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