Should you e-mail/call a guy to say '...

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Thu, 03-30-2006 - 12:05pm

Should you e-mail/call a guy to say 'thank you' after a date?



  • Yes, call
  • Yes, e-mail
  • No


You will be able to change your vote.


AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 11-01-2005
Thu, 03-30-2006 - 12:07pm

I have heard conflicting opinions about whether or not you should e-mail or call a guy to say thank you after a date.

Does it make you look too eager, or is it a nice gesture? Proper etiquette, or going overboard?

I'd love to see your votes and hear your reasons why. In the past, I have always e-mailed the guy to say "thanks, I had a nice time." Just curious what you all think.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 04-13-2004
Thu, 03-30-2006 - 1:44pm
I don't think you should call, at all. That will make you look too desperate and freak him out. But I always will thank a man in email for two reasons. 1) I will always reinerate a thank you if I like a guy, it's the polite thing to do. 2) Guys can't always tell if a girl is interested or not, so sometimes they do nothing. So if I like a guy, I will say "thank you, I had a great time" because I can be hard to read sometimes and I will leave it at that.
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Registered: 02-15-2005
Thu, 03-30-2006 - 1:54pm

Thank him after the date.

It's one of those things that you can ask "how would I have handled this before there was email"?

Of course, I'm old enough to remember how it was before email. LOL


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Registered: 03-20-2003
Thu, 03-30-2006 - 4:55pm

I usually email because I know I'm hard to read.

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Registered: 11-01-2005
Thu, 03-30-2006 - 5:24pm

Oh, great. There's a three-way tie. I'm so confused.

The general consensus seems to be say thank you to show I'm interested (I am), but I am feeling like that will appear overeager with this guy. Hmm.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 12-06-2004
Thu, 03-30-2006 - 5:55pm

I think what the poll shows is that everyone needs to find their own style. So do whatever feels most comfortable for you.

I personally will not call or email him after a date to thank him. I will tell him at the end of the date that I had a great time and I was very glad we went out. From there, it's up to him to pick up the ball and run with it!

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Thu, 03-30-2006 - 7:02pm
I think you should thank someone at the end of the date rather than waiting until later. Iri
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Registered: 09-08-2005
Thu, 03-30-2006 - 8:18pm
i said "no" because i would've thanked him already when we depart from our date...i think calling/e-mail so soon may sound like you are overly needy for his attention...but ya know what?! there are some guys who may appreciate your sincerity.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 03-30-2006 - 11:37pm

Don't you thank him while you're ON the date? That's what I think the polite thing to do is. I'd only email him afterwards if I somehow forgot my manners and didn't thank him while we were out.

Sheri

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Registered: 06-02-2005
Fri, 03-31-2006 - 12:58am

tallgirl,

IMO: *Brevity* is key and you can't really do that with a phone conversation, so a phonecall after the date would come across as too eager. However, a short text or e-mail is acceptable. A woman sent a text to me after a date and it was nice, it simply said, "I had a nice time tonight". E-mail saying the same is just as good. If you can't write it in 10 words or less, DON'T write anything, you will only increase the odds of saying something completely stupid :-)

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