Shy Guys

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Registered: 12-20-2011
Shy Guys
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Sun, 02-12-2012 - 11:12pm

I don't know what to think about this guy.

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Registered: 02-08-2011
In reply to: sweetpea1109
Mon, 02-13-2012 - 10:05am
It sounds like you understand him well and paint a good picture of the scenario. My guess would be that he likes you.....but he's not used to women he likes, actually liking him back! So he's in a state of disbelief and might even be wanting to enjoy the possibility of you liking him back before he risks anything. Plus, he probably has no confidence in his ability to go on a date and do well so he's even ignoring your hints at this point. This kind of thing would probably drive a lot of people crazy especially with him using "being shy" as a broad excuse, that will get old fast. But you said you are on the reserved side with guys too, so ultimately it sounds like you both will be good for each other. It's just getting out of this stalemate.
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Registered: 07-16-2001
In reply to: sweetpea1109
Mon, 02-13-2012 - 11:02am
It sounds like you have made it really clear to him that you're interested. If it were me and he wasn't following through (clamming up, like you said) I'd lose interest fast. I'd probably end up pulling away and showing interest in someone else, which would probably make the shy guy realize what he missed out on. I lose interest quickly when the guy isn't reciprocating, though.

The bottom line for me is that no matter how shy a guy is, if he's interested and available, he will ask you out.
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Registered: 05-14-1999
In reply to: sweetpea1109
Mon, 02-13-2012 - 12:16pm
Well, you either put him at ease when he's in your presence or, maybe he's had some liquid courage before bumping into you. I thought JT's suggestion was good, to try and employ him to help you find some sort of tech gadget, etc. I might try this once, but after that, I'd sit back and let him make the next move.
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Registered: 01-25-2010
In reply to: sweetpea1109
Mon, 02-13-2012 - 8:29pm

He feels "safe" to flirt but as far as making a move that may be your lot.

dragowoman

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Registered: 05-23-2008
In reply to: sweetpea1109
Mon, 02-13-2012 - 9:52pm

xxxs is right.

Like it or not, you'll have to do some breaking through with the shy guys... of which I'm one.

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Registered: 12-20-2011
In reply to: sweetpea1109
Mon, 02-13-2012 - 11:10pm

i actually played it super cool with him the night before this all happened.

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Registered: 07-16-2001
In reply to: sweetpea1109
Tue, 02-14-2012 - 8:17am

I didn't really mean to say that you should play games or anything.

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Registered: 05-14-1999
In reply to: sweetpea1109
Tue, 02-14-2012 - 11:03am

You know what, Sweetpea?

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Registered: 01-25-2010
In reply to: sweetpea1109
Tue, 02-14-2012 - 2:12pm

Simple! Two plans

A. the cast iron skillet approach

B. Kiss me approach

dragowoman