Sick and Tired of the Single Life!!!
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Sick and Tired of the Single Life!!!
| Wed, 10-11-2006 - 12:34pm |
Im sure Im not the only one on here thats sick and tired of the single life but Id figure Id post this and maybe get some responses..... Im 21 years old, Im a full time time student in the nursing program and I also work part-time, so between these 2 things, I am pretty busy with a full schedule... I dont really go out much, if I do its either going up to the bar with some friends for a beer or two or hanging out at a friends house. I keep telling myself that at this point in my life I do not need to be on the lookout for guys because I will be way too busy come 2 semesters when I begin my clinicals in school, but then again I look at everyone else around me that I care about and they are so in love and it makes me feel lonely. I dont really go out that much and my ideal place to meet someone isnt exactly in a bar, so how would you go about looking?

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Men...relationships....all overrated.
At 21, and with a full and busy life, why even bother looking or worry about being single? You are way way too young to worry about it - please don't, there'll be PLENTY of time to do so later! I agree with everyone else - enjoy life, gather experience along the way and see where it gets you dating-wise!
I agree with everyone else. Enjoy being young, enjoy school, and don't focus so hard on finding a relationship. There's plenty of time for that.
As for where to meet people -- when you're in college, you have endless possibilities for meeting people (I'm talking friends here - if a boyfriend prospect happens along, then great). I know I took it for granted in college and at 21 that I would always be around that many people my own age and in my same place in life. Once you leave college, it is never as easy to meet people again - believe me. Those of us in our late 20s and 30s are always asking - how do I meet people? It's hard even to find new friends after school is over.
So, join clubs you like, attend the cheap movies on campus, go to the pep rallies, check out the fundraising events on the quad. There is always something going on, somewhere to go and people to meet in college. Enjoy it!!
AJ, enjoying life with C.
While on one hand I agree with the advice here saying just have fun and enjoy school life etc etc - someone else also pointed out that once you leave it becomes harder and harder to find the right guy. Aside form the fact that I'm starting to find that all the good ones are pretty much married at my age, which is only 27!!! Plus life certainly doesn't get any easier and you have less and less free time the older you get.
So at 21, while you shouldn't be worried about finding "the one" definitely take advantage of your surroundings and just date if someone asks you out, you never know who you're going to click with, and it will never be this easy to meet people again! don't worry about finding exactly what your friends have because its true that it shows up when you aren't looking for it! :)
I too am tired of the single life (after 5 years of boyfriends though with no breaks, I've really only been single for a couple months) so I completely understand your feelings. It can be frustrating and depressing when you're the only single one in your crowd, no matter what your age (I can tell you if I had any single girlfriends at all, I know I would feel differently about this! I bet you would too)
I would say just keep doing what you're doing, maybe try to convince your coupled-up girlfriends to go out on more girls nights out rather than staying in! or make sure they are on the lookup for good guys for you- I agree that finding guys in bars is not the best route!
Sure, it makes me a bit lonely, like you, to see friends with their bf/gf and seeing them so completely happy. But you can't decide when and how who hook up. I think it just happens by chance encounter, in my personal (and friends) exprience. 21 is young, there are many years ahead of us to find THE one. I want to concentrate on my studies now, get my diploma. But I'm not shutting the door on anything. I just think of a relationship as being a bonus in my school year. If it happens, it happens. I won't say no!
Put your friends love aside, ask yourself one question, are you satisfied with your life? Is there anything more you want in life, which isn't a relationship? The answers will determine weather you actually want to be in a relationship. As much joy and excitement a wonderful relationship may bring, its side-effect includes just as much pain.
You may ask your friends to introduce some of their other single friends to you,f and started dating for fun. But don't put your hopes high, and don't fall for anyone easily. Boys in 20th has not developped proper sense of responsibility and adulthood yet. Even man in 30th can be a big baby.
My 31 years old ex-boyfriend and I just broke up, because he's too immature to work on our relationship issues, and he doesn't want to give for a committeed relationship after 15 months.
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