SICK of BEING SINGLE!!

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Registered: 11-15-2006
SICK of BEING SINGLE!!
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Sat, 12-09-2006 - 6:44pm

ok, I'm 30 years old...and I am SICK of BEING SINGLE!! I'm ready for the next phase of my life to begin any day now!!!
I find myself actually being jealous of my friends and their lives...seeing them with their kids or husbands or boyfriends....

Anyone else feel this way???

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Registered: 07-28-2006
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 4:23pm
This is an excellent post, thank you tuttyfruity. I couldn't have worded it any better.
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Registered: 12-11-2006
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 6:51pm
OMG I can't tell you how much I can relate. I may be a few years younger (26) but I can relate to every point. I don't think I'm ugly, I'm smart, I have a lot of different interests, and yet I STILL can't find a guy! I just don't even know what it is! And when it seems like no guy wants you, you begin doubting yourself so much that even what was formerly obvious seems doubtful. I don't really have any advice (except that I can tell you how many girls I would consider "ugly" seem to have boyfriends, so don't worry too much about that), I can tell you that I know exactly how you feel and apparently, it's an epidemic. WHERE ARE ALL THE ELIGIBLE MEN??!?
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Registered: 11-15-2006
Thu, 12-21-2006 - 5:51am
Kudos...well said :)
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Registered: 02-15-2006
Thu, 12-21-2006 - 12:19pm

"....and in the end the love you take, is equal to the love you make..."

I think the holidays can also accentuate singlehood a lot. I mean, I always have this desire to find a great bf, be in a relationship, since I was about 22 or 23....but it's definitely a much bigger desire during the holidays...now I am 32. What makes matters worse, is that all of my girlfriends, ones that I used to get together with and b*tch and complain about the scarcity of good, eligible men, are now all in relationships of their own. Since this is an anonymous site, I can say safely this, they've ALL settled, for (I'm sorry) losers, for fear of being alone. All of them are in unhealty relationships, some of their bf's are verbally abusive, some drink too much, and ALL are underemployed. I guess they felt that anything was better than being single, which I just don't relate to at all, because I respect and love myself enough to realize that I deserve a wonderful relationship/man. A lot of it is also about putting yourself out there, and trying, going to events, just being friendly. I will admit though, after many MANY disappointments with past BF's or dating in general, a lot of times after work, I adopt the "why bother" approach, and what is most appealing is just going home, to watch a great movie, read a great book, do my nails, artwork, paint....basically not deal with men at all. Deep down, I know though, if you want a relationship, you have to put more effort into finding one and don't let yourself lose hope. Project what you want, put good things out there, be kind to everyone and every living thing and it WILL come back to you. I truly believe that.

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