sick of being single!!

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Registered: 08-04-2003
sick of being single!!
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Mon, 05-19-2008 - 9:30pm

I just don't get it. I don't understand guys!!! I am 25, my last relationship was pretty much exactly 2 years ago--that was my only "real" relationship (and it only lasted 6 months!). I haven't even DATED anyone since.


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Registered: 11-01-2005
Tue, 05-20-2008 - 4:48pm
It doesn't sound like you are doing anything wrong - you are being yourself, and that's the best way to attract someone who is right for you. You don't have to put on some bubbly, forward-girl act.

Have you tried asking friends to introduce you to some single guys?

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 08-04-2003
Tue, 05-20-2008 - 7:11pm

thanks. I keep on trying to tell myself that by just being myself i will attract the right guy..but it's frustrating waiting sometimes!


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Registered: 11-09-2007
Tue, 05-20-2008 - 9:56pm

wow girl, you sound exactly like me!

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Registered: 05-17-2008
Thu, 05-22-2008 - 12:47am


I'm a guy, so I can only empathize with your situation. If I was a girl waiting for a guy to ask me out, I'd go nuts. But maybe I can offer you a bit of advice, since I know a fair number of women in your situation.

Firstly, keep your chin up. The first turn off in any situation will be a depressed and desperate woman. I'm sure you have a zillion special things that only you can do (roll your tongue, balance spinning plates, anything). Appreciate them.

Secondly, the world we live in today is cruelly based on image. And if you think your chubbiness is holding you back, then I suggest you work on it. Hire a personal trainer and a nutritionist, and STICK TO IT. I live in New York, so I know its ridiculously expensive, but the improvement in self-esteem is probably more than well worth it (besides wouldn't you want to work out with a hot guy?). Trust me, after 2 weeks of the routine, you will see improvement, and you'll noticeably feel better about yourself.

Thirdly, men are stupid. We really are. If you've got your eye on a guy you like, do everything short of asking him out yourself (a guy has got to do at least that). And flirt with as many guys as you can. Ask a guy to get your roll of paper towels from the top shelf next time. Even if he does not ask you out, he'll DEFINITELY think about you.

Good luck sugarmagnolia, i think youll be fine.

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Registered: 12-19-2007
Thu, 05-22-2008 - 4:08pm

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Registered: 11-01-2005
Fri, 05-23-2008 - 1:25pm
You can change your thoughts and actions without having to change the core of your "self." I don't think anyone should ever change the core of who they are just to try to land a partner.

It might be a matter of semantics, but you basically implied that there was something wrong with who the OP is. Better advice is to change negative thoughts and work toward developing positive actions.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 12-19-2007
Fri, 05-23-2008 - 4:26pm

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Registered: 05-23-2008
Sat, 05-24-2008 - 12:50am
Well, I'm male, been rejected more times than I can remember, and I "be myself" because lying doesn't work in the end. Women judge me by appearance, never thinking that it takes time to get to know me. Sometimes I feel like just throwing up my hands and thinking there are rules everyone knows except me.
Love adds and multiplies. Hate divides and subtracts.
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Registered: 12-19-2007
Sat, 05-24-2008 - 2:48am

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Registered: 05-23-2008
Sat, 05-24-2008 - 9:49am
Ok, spill.

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