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Thu, 01-12-2006 - 12:08pm

Just in a blue funk today...

Not sure why. Ok, well... it's my ex-bf's birthday on Saturday and I realized that I haven't seen him now for 17 months, but I can still feel him. Feels like yesterday some days.

Any tips for cheering up?

I have been in a good mood and optimistic up until today, so maybe it's just one of those days.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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In reply to: tallgirlcolo
Thu, 01-12-2006 - 2:00pm
Go out shopping and buy something nice for yourself. On Saturday plan a fun night so you don't stay at home thinking about him but make sure you don't overdrink or you might be tempted to drunk dial him to wish him a happy birthday :o
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In reply to: tallgirlcolo
Thu, 01-12-2006 - 2:06pm

I know how you feel. I'm sort of having one of those days, too. It's really stressful and I'd like to just go home and sit with someone and watch TV and zone out (and maybe complain about work a little). But, not gonna happen so I'll go to a meeting for work, then the doctor, then the gym, and then another meeting for a committe I'm on.

Distraction is the only tip I have today.

:-)

Edited for a typo.




Edited 1/12/2006 2:07 pm ET by lesleylou
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In reply to: tallgirlcolo
Thu, 01-12-2006 - 6:19pm

Yeah, some days you just want to hide from the world. This is definitely one of those.

Reading Oprah Magazine and having tea over my lunch break helped. I'm also having a drink with a coworker after work, so that will be nice as well. I guess simple pleasures get you through those rough days.

To bella_isabella -- good advice. I will do something nice for myself. Fortunately for me, he moved out of state and I don't have his number -- so it makes it harder to drunk dial him. :) I guess it's a good sign that I have never even bothered to look up his new number.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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In reply to: tallgirlcolo
Thu, 01-12-2006 - 7:00pm

You'll get past it- we all do.

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In reply to: tallgirlcolo
Fri, 01-13-2006 - 9:50am

I can relate totally to how you feel. Yesterday was my ex-bf's birthday. I just recently broke it off (3 wks). I still don't know why it upset me so but today I feel better. Women are so sentimental sometimes I wish we were not. We will remember days like that for a long time. It's just in our character. I tend to beleive that letting yourself be upset sometimes is a good thing. People always tell me to try and keep busy during these difficult times. If I do that then I never let myself feel the emotions so then I can get over them. I cried for hours yesterday but honestly I feel different today. Today I remember why I left him and why he was not right for me. I made the right choice and know that deep in my heart.
Try to do the same. And if you need cheering up go do something just for you.
Get a facial. Get a massage. Go buy those expensive jeans that look so great on you.
Get a manicure. Just do something just for you. Is there anything that he held you back from doing when you were together? Now that you are single.........You can do anything you want......

Cheers
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In reply to: tallgirlcolo
Fri, 01-13-2006 - 10:37am

Thanks, ladies. The funk has carried over to today, so I do think I'll give myself some down time this weekend to just be a little sad and get it out of my system.

There are lots of good reasons why I'm not with this man anymore, so it's not a matter of wanting him back. I suppose it's a bit of wondering how he is, a bit of missing loving someone, and just a bit of general fatigue with dating. Sounds like a dating break is in order to work on an attitude adjustment. I will be just fine.

Three-day weekend. Woo hoo. :)

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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In reply to: tallgirlcolo
Fri, 01-13-2006 - 1:17pm
Here's another suggestion. Go watch that new horror movie Hostel I heard it is so gruesome that I'm sure your mind will be kept busy while you are in there.
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In reply to: tallgirlcolo
Fri, 01-13-2006 - 5:00pm
Are you in Jersey, by any chance? Lousy weather here. Supposed to be lousy tomorrow too. Anyway, Is there any activities you can do with friends to beat the blues? Sitting around allowing yourself to be sad, could ruin your weekend.

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In reply to: tallgirlcolo
Fri, 01-13-2006 - 6:31pm

I know what you mean about the blues having nothing to do with wanting the man back but still being there anyway. I had that feeling big time when I found out that my ex got married. Also, I was with him when his father died suddenly and it was just horrible. I think of him every day on the anniversary of his father's death.

It's OK to let yourself feel the blues as long as you don't wallow in them. To completely ignore it might make it worse later but you also need to take care of yourself. I am feeling the blues today - I just got back from traveling for work and I love the idea of the long weekend but I am dreading next week because I am having oral surgery on Wendesday. Blech.

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In reply to: tallgirlcolo
Fri, 01-13-2006 - 8:26pm

Nope. Colorado, and the weather is actually pretty nice.

I do have plans with friends this weekend - both Sunday and Monday. I hate wallowing, so won't do that. I might allow myself one afternoon with a nap or a sappy movie and some serious couch time.

I'm feeling a bit better now (although I am still at work, ugh).

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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