(sigh) I have a crush....

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(sigh) I have a crush....
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Thu, 07-17-2003 - 11:44pm
Well, some of you might remember the older guy that I have been admiring in class. He's probably about 40, and I'm 26. If he were just five years younger, I'd have no problem with the idea of dating him, but I just don't know about it at his age!

I've definitely decided that if he asks, I'll go out with him. I figure there's no harm in that, right?

Well, tonight was our last class. We walked out together and we talked about stupid 80's movies and last names. He left me with "have a good rest of the summer." Who knows if I'll see him again, BUT I do have access to his email address. I'm supposed to update the whole class about my Disney trip when I get back. My plan is to try to keep up the email with him for longer than just the trip update. Maybe something will come from it, maybe not...

I'll keep you updated.

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Fri, 07-18-2003 - 7:26pm
Wait a minute, isn't this the guy you were thinking of for your friend????
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Fri, 07-18-2003 - 8:48pm
Umm, well, yes, he is! I did mention it to her, and she totally put him down the minute I said he'd never been married. A plus in my book is a minus in hers.

I've found some more out about him since the first time I mentioned him. He seemed pretty serious at first, and he did say that he was boring, but that's not the picture I get at all. He makes jokes in class, and he has a very cute smile! We had to list life goals, and his included things like traveling to Italy, driving a race car, and owning a coffee shop. He's obsessed with the new Sonic commercial where the guy is intrigued with lettuce! I just find that funny. (Gosh...I hope he doesn't read this board, cause I'm busted if he does!)

So, I decided to keep him for myself...at least in my mind!

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Sat, 07-19-2003 - 12:13am
Speaking as a 40-year-old woman who has never posted on this board before (or maybe I have but I just don't remember!) I have to say I'm getting commitmentphobe vibes from what you've said about him.

Unless you don't care about getting married and having children, I wouldn't go out with him. Unless of course he listed getting married and having children among his life goals. If he didn't then he's probably not the marrying kind. Believe me, I've had a lifetime of experience with going out with men who are not the marrying kind.

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Sat, 07-19-2003 - 12:26am
That's a possiblity, and I have thought if it, but I'd prefer to find out for myself. I would hate for someone to assume something about me before getting to know me. I try not to do that with other people as well.

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Sat, 07-19-2003 - 8:06am
You're absolutely right.
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Sat, 07-19-2003 - 12:28pm
Well, I don't hear that very often!

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Sat, 07-19-2003 - 5:42pm
Well, good luck with him! Keep us posted.