Silent treatment?

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Registered: 01-24-2011
Silent treatment?
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Mon, 04-16-2012 - 11:14am

I give the silent treatment when I am upset over something. It is my biggest personality flaw. I googled it and it says it is a form of abuse.

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Registered: 05-14-1999
Mon, 04-16-2012 - 8:34pm

When I'm just being normal, I don't have much of a filter.

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Mon, 04-16-2012 - 6:36pm
I am silent because I contemplate my conflicts, not as punishment. I don't ever want to say something I don't mean in the heat of the moment. I wait until I've decided that I'm justified in being upset and I know how to get my problem across in the best possible manner without making things worse.
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Registered: 01-24-2011
Mon, 04-16-2012 - 4:06pm
I have to admit I also have a bit of temper too... I try to have it under control. When I am mad, I just feel like talking and I give the silent treatment. Sometimes I am afraid I will regret what I say so I rather say quiet.
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Registered: 09-12-2005
Mon, 04-16-2012 - 3:19pm

I don't believe in silent treatment. If I care about the person, I would want to solve the problem as soon as possible. If I don't care about the person, then I simply stop communicating with them, but obviously that wouldn't happen in a relationship. It could happen with some not very close friend.

And I absolutely hate when someone gives me the silent treatment. I could break up over it.

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Registered: 05-14-1999
Mon, 04-16-2012 - 2:42pm
I do, but I have a bad temper so I use it more like a cooling off period than really giving a person the silent treatment. You don't want to confront me about something if I'm still angry. On the flip side, I also find that I'm quick to apologize. As I age, I'm finding that I seem to be the only person apologizing, anymore. And, it's not like the other person wasn't participating, either. Sometimes they are even the one who started it. I hate it when I put myself out there, apologize and then get absolutely nothing in return. Not even an "I forgive you". It makes me want to dig my heels in and be stubborn.
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 04-16-2012 - 1:50pm

I don't think it's mainly women who do this--I remember my cousin complaining that her DH did it.