Single, 28 , Running Out of Time
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Single, 28 , Running Out of Time
| Mon, 01-07-2008 - 1:50pm |
I feel like I am being left behind everyone else in my age group as they continue forward with their wonderful husbands, babies and gorgeous houses and I'm all alone wishing I had what they have. I am 28 and single. I have a good job, am educated, am active, have good friends. But I am really lonely. I was in an incredible, wonderful relationship for two years with a man I thought was perfect and whom I thought I would marry. He broke up with my unexpectedly

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It can be hard not to be envious of those things, but you have to focus on you and what you do have rather than what you don't.
I'm 38 years old. Married at 24,
Wow you sound exactly like i did at 30!
Girlfriend, if you're worried about that at 28, then I should have checked into the nursing home long ago! I'm 35, never been married and have no children.
I will tell you this - I was single for 7 years before I met Mr. Pooh. Actually, we had known each other for a long time, but started dating 5 years ago. I also had met a guy who I thought was "the one." He was divorced, had 3 kids who I loved, and a girlfriend on the side. I found that out from his friends. I didn't love that.
My friends who were on a mission to marry - here's the rundown:
Thank you all for taking the time to post. I really appreciate hearing different perspectives. I do have a good group of friends and they are there for me. But most of my friends are married and many have young families. Once they settle into work-husband-house-kids, people are just busy with their own lives and can't be there as much as they used to, or as I was for them when they were single or having RL issues before they settled down. You guys know how it is -- friends who can't meet for drinks because they're too busy househunting, friends who can talk on the phone for just 10 minutes before the baby starts to cry, friends who can't do dinner on the weekend because that is when they do couple time.
But your self-esteem will bounce back, especially if you had good self-esteem before you broke up.
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From reading your post - not too sure if you got it - but I can tell you this man did you a favour. The 'attention I deserved and wanted' is what sealed the deal with me on him - classic male excuse for not being an adult.
If at 34 he does not know what he wants you should be releasing a sigh of relief he's gone. At 34 he should have a clue. Take it from someone 10 years older and has been married - he did you a favour.
I don't think there is anything on this planet you could have done differently in your role as a GF - but if he's still not mature enough - which is what it sounds like - then nothing you would do would change it.
I think you did all the things that one would hope shows a partner you truly love them - but if your ex does not fully 'love' himself then no matter what you did it's not going to make him mature enough to be a partner.
Stop beating yourself up about it.
Beach
Well, I already answered this post on the
Hi Erin,
Listen,
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