Single at 50 ... trying to figure out 50 year old men lol
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|Thu, 08-02-2012 - 7:58am|
Not really sure WHERE I should start this discussion. If there is a better board for it .,.. direct me there please!
Here's what my problem is and I think I really need help!
I am in my early 50s, very healthy and still sexy as can be (or so the men tell me), active and self-sufficient single woman. I actually was here on this board several years ago when I met the man I still believe is my soul-mate but due to his inability to quit being so aggressive with everyone I broke off that relationship 3 years ago even though I still loved him. So here I am, actually wanting to date again and possibly get in a relationship (I have NEVER been single for longer than a few months since my late teens).
For the last couple of years, I have dated or met about 5 different men, all in my age group (50+) and tried to see if there was anything there. The first one, tried to move in with me after about 2 months and that didn't work out, I didn't love him yet and I wasn't going to live with someone I was not in love with. Since then, I tried dating or meeting men (there have been 3 total) my age and found that they are all like, 'wow, why didn't I ever meet you before, you are so beautiful' and so on, then I wait for them to call or text me again and they never do. If I reach out to them, they respond and want to get together again.
I don't need someone to take care of me ... but I would like to have an adult relationship again. I do admit that I haven't tried very hard to do this over the last few years but now I want to get out there.
I have to say that it is disappointing to me that the man is not making the effort to get to know me better. I also have noticed that younger men (mid-30s to early-40s) are always hitting on me whereas the men I actually want to date (50+) don't try at all. Is this something that happens as men reach 50? They lose all confidence in themselves? I am now considering lowering my age limit since I actually do look a lot younger than I am in the hopes that I will find a man that doesn't expect me to initiate all the contact. Should I start looking at these younger guys and responding more to them? I just don't understand what is going on in the heads of the men that are 50+ anymore. Sad because I have met a couple that if they were just a tad more aggresive they would have had their hands full ... of me.