Single again- what now?!

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Registered: 01-27-2005
Single again- what now?!
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Mon, 04-03-2006 - 10:24am
As always, I'll make a long story short. Went on blind date, 3 years ago, didn't like the guy, but my sis married his friend, so he is usually at family get togethers. We have stayed in touch, tried to date once didn't work, he begged and begged me to try again, and I gave in. I knew better! He ended up being the immature, self centered, a$$ as he was before. He played games like - I've been to see you twice, now it's your turn, he refused to take me to dinner, he would only text me, never talked on the phone, says I think it is all about me when I AM the one that offered to go see him Sat. But when I asked if he'd like to go play pool, he ignored me. (He always did that to, if I asked a question and it was something he didn't want to do, he avoided the ? and ignored me - this happened SO frequently) I decided to give him the benefit of the doubt Sat. and try to go visit, no texted back, 2 1/2 hrs. later I texted him and said I assume that is a no, so have a good weekend. Later Sat. night I decided to end it all together, he is SO not for me. I just told him he is not who I want to be w/, I deserve someone that wants to see me, that doesn't play games and left it at that, then he says I am the one that is impossible. Now - I had a coffee table at my house that I couldn't use, and he said that he would buy it. Well of course now what I want for it he says "is not worth it". It was a $350 table, and has one scratch on it, and the wood is still beautiful, so I asked for $200. Anyway, he isn't buying, but says he will bring it back "when he has time" or I need to go get it. WTH??????!!!!!! Shouldn't HE bring it back since HE took it? And when he gets time? I just asked him to bring it back the following weekend. We only live 45 mins. from one another. What is this guys deal? Not that it really matters b/c I am so done w/ him. Any ideas?? Thanks for reading!
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Registered: 04-13-2004
Mon, 04-03-2006 - 4:57pm

I dated this guy and I'll tell you right now, he will NOT be easy to get rid of either.... I know the mind games. He will blame you for being selfish, when he is the selfish one. He will blame you for being a drama queen when he is the one that pulls your strings. He will belittle you and say, "I was just joking". For example, went out and we questioned where to park. There are parking regulations all over Chicago and your car will get towed to matter what! He was going to park illegally and I said not to do it. He says, "what do you know about parking", when he is the one that got the boots TWO times and I have never had one problem.

This guy IS BAD NEWS. He is going to pull you back into his web every time you try to break free. It is a mind game and he loves it. He loves knowing that he can convince you otherwise. I am not even sure if they realize what they're doing either. But all you can do is, get your table and get out of there. And you better go get that table yourself if you would like to see it again. Do not rely on him to do it. Plus, as long as he has it, he will have leverage over you.

My advice because I have been though it, is get that table and then run!! AND do not let him try to pull you back in with all the sweet gestures and comments, because he will. He will not change and he will go back to being a jerk!!!

Run, run very fast.....!