Single for almost 4 yrs....and sad :(
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| Thu, 10-13-2005 - 10:42pm |
I'm officially TEFLON for relationships.... :(
I'm in my mid-20s, attractive, in shape, have a successful career (way beyond my years), a fabulous condo and wonderful friends.. family is a bit sketch..but who's isn't! And I am alone...and lonely.
Problem is... i've been single since 2nd year in University. I haven't had a long term realtionship in 4 years. In that time span... friends have gotten married, fallen in and out of love... and I've just sort of been stagnant. I've dated - with little success- and had intermittent 1-2 month "things" (that aren't even deserving of a relationship title) and usually gotten run over in the process.
I, like many woman, have the tendency to like the "bad boys". I have guys come after me, but none of them I'm attracted to OR the ones that I am ... I never hear from again. I can't seem to win at this dating game!
Tried online dating on advice from a friend...and AGAIN... guys I liked... never heard from them again and I had all these freaky-icky guys emailing me! Agh! I'm starting to think that physically...it's me. I'm pretty but I'm very small chested for my size... and have been contemplating implants. I know that is NOT the answer...but I feel like it will help with my confidence?
Right now, I've fallen into the bad trap of attracting "taken" guys. The last 3 guys I've met and kissed have had girlfriends and failed to notify me of the fact. Last guy, that I've developed strong feelings for...is someone I work with...and yes, we had a moment and wait, yes, he has a girlfriend. Now, he's stuck in my head.
I'm ready for a relationship, but I can't find anyone that seems to hold my interest. Am I being too picky? or self-distructive? I can't tell anymore.. I'm starting to think I'm ugly or personality-challenged .. even though I know it's not the case. I have acquaintances who treat their boyfriends like crap but ALWAYS seem to be dating these fabulous guys. I guess nice girls don't finish first EITHER!
All of my friends are starting to be more and more in serious relationships...even some of the die-hard single gals...are now taken up with guys. So more and more I'm getting left out of the picture - i.e. couple nights out... etc etc....
I know ... people are going to say join a club or something... or try a singles cooking class. But the thing is I work ridiculously long hours and travel lots. My free time (when I have some) is spent shopping or playing hockey/working out.
Please help... or support from others feeling the same... would be great
i feel so alone!
kaye

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I have to cut back on the shopping, too, but it never happens! Too bad you weren't nearby today. I went on a little shopping trip..found a cute sweater at American Eagle and got some candles and a picture frame from Pier 1 to perk up my apartment a bit. :-)
I know what you mean about the end of the day, especially when you crawl into bed alone. Granted, that was what I was doing in my last relationship 90% of the time because of the distance, so what difference did it make, right? It feels like the older I get, the harder it is to start over. But I try to stay positive most of the time! Yeah, they need to start doing sprints to us! I'm sure I'll be hearing a hook up story from you one of these days, too!
Veena :-)
You are too funny. I wish I was closer too. Shopping definitely would have beat what I was doing today. I stayed inside and studied my ass off. Sadly, I still don't think I am ready for exam on tuesday, especially after working all day tomorrow. Besides, it was very windy over here today and to be truthful, I am shocked that my car is still parked at where I left it. hehehehe! I am heading to NYC this weekend and that's where I usually put a dent in my paycheck due to shopping. It seems like that's all I got going for me right now.
On other matters, yeah, you were having lots of sleep alone due to your long distance relationship. It will be very great for you to find somebody closer. My ex was in the NAVY and stationed in Virginia so I did lots and lots of sleeping alone but I never got used to it. Also, I think I am done with military men :) I am a cuddling, touchy person so I need my man close. With luck our knight in shinning armor is riding his white horse closer to us by the minute. Until then, some good ol' shopping and partying won't hurt. hehehehe!
Viv
LOL Viv! Good luck on that exam. I'm sure you'll do fine! That's the one thing I don't miss about being in school. Shopping in NYC is potentially dangerous for me. I've been there twice and both times I came back with an astronomical credit card bill, haha.
I never dated a military man. I never really came across any. But I can see why you wouldn't want to date another one. Although they do look good in uniform :-) ...anyways.
Have fun this weekend!
Veena :-)
hey.....dont you guys ever think its just America facing the crunch of good girls meeting good guys. I am 27 and from India...and guess what, my story hasnt been any different. I have degree...a great job...independent....I look good..if not great and have had relationships that have left me drained.
I was down in dumps for the past few days and wanted to talk to people who had the same pains as I have....all my friends are now married or getting married or living with their partners or going around....I have recently given up on men, cuz i think I have the most useless ones in my share.
But still like so many of you I have also not given up the hope to find the right guy. But truely sleeping alone every nite makes u feel miserable sometimes. But I still feel its better than an idiot sleeping with you, who you would want to kill as soon as he wakes or maybe throw him out of the window...or (your choice...hehehe).
Not that I am convinced but maybe you people will agree that 'lifes beautiful' yet....
so all you beautiful gals out there......good luck and God bless.....and you are not alone for sure...maybe WE can be friendz.
love
celeste.
You are right Celeste, life is still beautiful. I am sure all of us have had our share of bad relationships. Don't give up though. You definitely can take some time to yourself but don't give up. I am sure the right person is out there...only if we can find him quickly and easily. I know it's easier said than done but hang in there. You are right, all of us can be friends :)
Viv
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