single and mad

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Registered: 06-21-2006
single and mad
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Tue, 07-10-2007 - 6:10pm

ok im a single guy and i get really mad and frustrated sometimes . do women feel the same who are in single?
i think some women are really *****, at least in my area. i can see why some men treat women bad.

Edited 7/10/2007 6:11 pm ET by pesar_usa

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Registered: 02-01-2007
In reply to: pesar_usa
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 10:53pm

I am single because I am just looking for a guy who is interested in a relationship, not only sex, or hooking up or NTA arrangements, etc. I am ready for a real relationship and I won't settle for some guy who wants fun with no effort. Unfortunately most men I meet are still in party mode and want to have fun with lots of different women.

I have been treated very badly at times and I feel it has been undeserved. Am I mad? sometimes very much so, but I have to remember that there are so many other people are in my same boat. Everyone for the most part is going to get dumped, rejected at least once. I am currently very heartbroken, but I know that this is just part of my journey. I do believe there is someone out there for me and as long as I can learn from my mistakes, I will meet him someday.

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Registered: 12-03-2006
In reply to: pesar_usa
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 11:16pm

Pesar,

Where do you live? I know many white women who would go for non-european white men. How about Persian women? Don't they go for Persian men? How about non-white women? The fact that you complain about white women make me think you'relimiting yourself to only white women. If that's the case then you've narrowed your pool of potential quite a bit.

But I do understand why people have racial preferences. YOu were brought up in certain culture ans environment and what you find attractive is subjective. My guess is you're a younger man (below 45) b/c the older and more sophisticated one becomes the more open one is to race. That's my general observation. It has nothing to do with being "desparate" and settling for non-white b/c you can't find a white person. I find that statement extremly offensive.

What I find to be consistently attractive is not the color of the man but a certain body build and most importantly personality, success, and education. Regardless of your race or ethnicity, do you have the qualities that women generally find to be attractive? Maybe it's not your ethnicity that is the problem but rather the other qualities?

I'm an Asian woman and while I admit that limits my versatility a bit --we don't live in a color-blind world -- there's no way on earth I would prefer a white man to "improve" my gene pool or wishing that I was white so I could appeal to more men. As a matter of fact, I would improve the gene pool (not to mention financial condition) of any man I marry white or colored. I find a man who is kind, sophisticated, educated, successful, open minded most sexy of all. I'd take any man who have those qualities over any white guy who think they are God's gift just b/c of what they're born with.

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Registered: 07-21-2004
In reply to: pesar_usa
Wed, 07-11-2007 - 8:34am

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Registered: 01-26-2006
In reply to: pesar_usa
Wed, 07-11-2007 - 10:05am
Well, I don't know about anyone else, but I'm simply typically attracted white or sometimes hispanic men. I'm completely open to other cultures, races, what have you, it's just the way I am, probably partially because I like that guy next door, often athletic, nice guy look (there was a guy on my bus this morning that I practically could have just snapped a picture of and said "that's my type" AND he seemed to be heading in the direction of the Harvard business school...there you go, haha :) ). On the other hand, I have a friend - blonde hair, blue eyes, almost as fair as I am - who has never dated a white guy. She's open to it and flirts with them and finds some attractive...it's just the way SHE is.
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Registered: 05-01-2007
In reply to: pesar_usa
Wed, 07-11-2007 - 10:12am

I hope you meant persar_usa and not me!

I try to be courteous to everyone, even if I think they're acting idiotic.

Were/are you an actor? I noticed your fabulous costume in your pic and it reminded me of Chicago or Thoroughly Modern Mille.

~Heather~

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Registered: 01-26-2006
In reply to: pesar_usa
Wed, 07-11-2007 - 10:25am

Oh of course! I was just quoting you when you said he needed to look inward.

And no, I wasn't....that was just my Halloween costume, but I loved it. :)

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Registered: 10-14-2003
In reply to: pesar_usa
Wed, 07-11-2007 - 10:58am

This is directed to the OP:

I have to comment on this - my BF and I got into it over this past weekend with a similar comment he made on a similar subject.

This same line of BS that guys throw around that "WAH women are cold, WAH women don't even look at me, WAH all women want is a rich guy with a nice car, good job, etc."

I turned to my BF and pretty yelled at him - "YOU'RE SUCH A HYPOCRITE! YOU put women down for doing the EXACT SAME THING that YOU YOURSELF are guilty of - JUDGING A BOOK BY IT'S COVER."

My advice was the same that I'll make to the OP - YOU'RE GOING FOR THE WRONG WOMEN. If you only go for the shallow, hot, bimbo girls then this is the kind of behavior you should expect. And if you yourself shun a girl because she's not "hot enough," then you should also expect to be shunned.

Not to mention being "angry" that you're single is NOT the way to attract a woman. No woman is REQUIRED to go out with you just because you ask her. We *all* get rejected. Deal with it in a healthy manner.

Geeze.

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Registered: 01-26-2006
In reply to: pesar_usa
Wed, 07-11-2007 - 11:13am

>>WAH all women want is a rich guy with a nice car, good job, etc.

I HATE this...it is SO inaccurate and just plain ridiculous. NO ONE I know even CARES about a man's money or car or whatever; many people in my city (and my age) don't even OWN cars and I really could not care less!

I know I'll probably never make loads and loads of money, but damn it, I'm going to support myself! I'm bordering on stubbornly independent and probably wouldn't even let a guy pay my/all of our bills if he were wealthy and we were married!

And good job, you're right on. :)

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