A Single Girl's Rant

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Registered: 02-08-2005
A Single Girl's Rant
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Mon, 03-10-2008 - 11:00am

Can I take a moment to just vent & rant?

5yrssm 
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-08-2005
Mon, 03-10-2008 - 3:33pm

It almost gets redundant after a while when you are being told, "oh the right one will come along when you least expect it!"

5yrssm 
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Registered: 01-12-2008
Wed, 03-12-2008 - 6:58pm

Ladies,


It seems that we are all having the same conversations with people!


I have meant alot of people and met even more not so special people!


The thing is with me, I know what I want and after years of experience I am not willing to settle for anything less than what I want and deserve.


So I have not met "him" yet, big deal.


I heard something once that I think holds true:


The person that you are meant to be with is there, probably crossing your path.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-02-2008
Thu, 03-13-2008 - 11:17am

Honey, you are not alone I feel your pain... I didn't think it was that bad until my mother pointed out an eharmoney commercial and offered to pay for it ..


I am only 27 and I am the only single one among my friends.. but I just try to think that I would rather be single than dating the wrong guy and you know what it doesn't help either... I want my mr. right to come right now

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-03-2008
Thu, 03-13-2008 - 11:23am

Well, I was where you are at the dreaded age of 27 then I settled for someone I knew in my heart of hearts wasn't the right one for me, but on the plus side I got two beautiful little girls out of a disastrous relationship. Now here I am again in the same spot I was at 27, older, hopefully much wiser and definitely this time NOT willing to settle for the man that doesn't make my heart beat faster, those butterflies appear in my stomach or just make me feel warm and fuzzy all over....I WILL NOT DO IT AGAIN, NO WAY...

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-17-2005
Thu, 03-13-2008 - 12:40pm

I am in the same place in my life as you.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-01-2007
Thu, 03-13-2008 - 7:22pm

OMG! I think I've had this same conversation with myself and every other single girl I know! And the online dating - makes me want to go collect cats. I recently had my (engaged) friend tell me that I was "too picky" because I didn't want to date a divorced father.

~Heather~

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-18-2003
Thu, 03-13-2008 - 8:28pm

Girl, been there...done that. I just got out of my 3rd serious relationship. Let’s put it like this;

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-04-2008
Thu, 03-13-2008 - 10:43pm

Wellllllllllll...where should I start?

First of all, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. I don't understand why single people think that being single is an issue, or that there's something automatically wrong with them. Snap out of it!!!

Men can tell when women are desperate and needy. They can tell when a woman is insecure and doubting herself. They are much more intelligent than what we give them credit four.

Before you go saying, "oh you're just another girl who's married, and has the perfect life...blah blah blah", let me tell you a few things.

Like I said before, there's nothing wrong with being single. You are making it to be a problem, when in fact it is not. I have met some of the most beautiful and intelligent women, who were single. Some men are intimated and aren't man enough to be with a woman like that. Other times, women aren't content with who they are. And even other times, you are trying to find a cure to your "loneliness". Well, a man won't fill that gap, until you are happy with yourself.

Being single rocks! Change your attitudes. It's ok to get sad and rant occasionally, but face it...most of you will get married ( i say most, because some people choose to stay single) one day. Go out, try new things, enjoy life. Because once you are married, you won't get that. The most exciting thing you'll experience is taking your kids to the local
auction or something.

I used to be in your situation. I was twenty and every single one of my girlfriends was either dating a man seriously, engaged, or getting married. And there I was. Everyone told me I was beautiful, smart, and all those other things. I didn't believe them. Then I changed my attitude. I started to like being single. And then of course, I got picked up by a sexy stranger at a church meeting, and that was it. You have to trust that you deserve much better. Don't set your standards too high, because we are all imperfect, but also don't set your standards low. You are a woman and deserve the best!

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-16-2006
Fri, 03-14-2008 - 10:58am

>>>"I used to be in your situation. I was twenty and every single one of my girlfriends was either dating a man seriously, engaged, or getting married."<<<


Wow Really! 20 huh?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-21-2007
Fri, 03-14-2008 - 12:53pm

****"Single is old for me.