Hi! Nice to see you here, Wishful. :) I was just browsing the boards and came across this one, and figured I might as well reply. I have similar thoughts and feelings. I'm not too sure why I can't find someone either. Actually, I know that for a time, it was probably b/c I didn't WANT to. I was far too gun-shy for that. (I was in an abusive relationship too- not really physically abusive-more emotional/verbal/mental, but it was a long-term relationship- for a time was long-distance, and it did a job on me.) So it's been a long time, over 2 years, since I've been serious with anyone.
I don't really want anything serious right now, but I would like to have someone that I can feel comfortable with, a companion- but with a spark! lol I want to be able to really be myself around someone without the hassles of being concerned whether we're going to become a couple
Actually, just for the record- I don't look at married women and think they have the perfect lives. In fact, sometimes I wonder what type of dirty laundry they are hiding- particularly the ones that seem happiest. I've found that those that are so emphatic about appearing happy on the outside...are the ones that are most shattered on the inside.
I'm actually very skeptical about "love" and relationships. I don't feel like I need the love of a man, but should it come into my life, it would be nice. Then again, I might not even believe him, so I might wind up chasing it away when and if it ever comes to me again. Who knows.
I don't mind being single- I don't even know for sure if I want to get married, but I'd like to be able to have some type of fairly steady companion (with a spark!). I really don't need relationship drama, but there are certain aspects of a relationship that would be nice and that I think I could handle- without too much commitment.
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I've been reading the posts on this subject for several days now and I pretty much agree with EVERYTHING being said.
Hi! Nice to see you here, Wishful. :) I was just browsing the boards and came across this one, and figured I might as well reply. I have similar thoughts and feelings. I'm not too sure why I can't find someone either. Actually, I know that for a time, it was probably b/c I didn't WANT to. I was far too gun-shy for that. (I was in an abusive relationship too- not really physically abusive-more emotional/verbal/mental, but it was a long-term relationship- for a time was long-distance, and it did a job on me.) So it's been a long time, over 2 years, since I've been serious with anyone.
I don't really want anything serious right now, but I would like to have someone that I can feel comfortable with, a companion- but with a spark! lol I want to be able to really be myself around someone without the hassles of being concerned whether we're going to become a couple
Actually, just for the record- I don't look at married women and think they have the perfect lives. In fact, sometimes I wonder what type of dirty laundry they are hiding- particularly the ones that seem happiest. I've found that those that are so emphatic about appearing happy on the outside...are the ones that are most shattered on the inside.
I'm actually very skeptical about "love" and relationships. I don't feel like I need the love of a man, but should it come into my life, it would be nice. Then again, I might not even believe him, so I might wind up chasing it away when and if it ever comes to me again. Who knows.
I don't mind being single- I don't even know for sure if I want to get married, but I'd like to be able to have some type of fairly steady companion (with a spark!). I really don't need relationship drama, but there are certain aspects of a relationship that would be nice and that I think I could handle- without too much commitment.
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