Ultimately, I hope that I find my perfect person! But, as much as I complain and wish that I had a serious boyfriend, I think I'm really happy to be single. I wish that I had someone and on some days I wish that more than others. Then I look at my life and I see how busy I am and realize that I don't have enough time to be in a relationship. For me my hard/mad days are when I see couples everywhere it feels like, and I'm all by myself! Then I realize that while I want the romantic interaction and having someone to talk to, I don't want to have to answer to someone. Maybe answer is not the right word, but I just don't want to have someone that I have to be with and, in a way, entertain everyday.
Overall I would say that I am pretty happy being single. As running chick, I maintain a very busy schedule, so I don't really get to think about it very often, but I do have those lonely days. I realized when I am feeling down, I just go to the gym or my belly-dancing class, or even go out dancing in the club. Shopping helps as well. I noticed that I miss having someone on the weekends, since I have lots of free time then. And, I would say that the main aspect that I miss is sex and a little cuddling. lol What about you?
I don't know that I would say I'm happy about being single, but, in general I am a happy person. I'm 50 and have never been married, it just never happened for me. It's frustrating, I don't know why...but I realized a long time ago that I never would know "why". I also decided a long time ago that I didn't want to be miserable my whole life because I didn't have a man in my life. So, there are certainly days when I'm lonely, days when I'm frustrated, days when I wish I was part of a couple. I see my friends who are my age and they have kids and grandkids, family gatherings, etc. I miss having that, my immediate family is not close, so that is not a substitute. I try to focus on what I do have in my life, but I can't say that I don't wish I had someone to wake up with in the morning, and especially, someone to share life's frustrations and hardships with. Life is hard, and it is especially hard to manage alone. But, again, I try to make the most out of my life the way it is,not how I wish it was....
I could almost retype your message. (-: Good days and bad. I do Ok alone, always have been fairly comfortable in my own skin for better or for worse. I haven't dated much lately, almost since I joined the board. Somehow this was part of a few things that came together and just made me stop and take measure of a few things.
I like single OK. I don't "need" someone in my life to make it whole . . but it does make it complete for me . . . I like being with someone. But in the same breath, part of why I stopped dating . .I want to do it right, and I am a "stop looking" guy, you know how that advice is always out there. I had to get my head back to that place . . have to get it back there. (-: I was looking. I think it fogs things up.
I guess I belive you need your head on straight in order to be attractive to others . . get that right, and you are then "naturally" open, friendly and naturally meeting others. When you meet others without agendas, then you are open to all possibility, and certainly "exposed" to falling in love with some of those that will be attracted to all that good spirited energy you are putting out there. ((-: But if you aren't being yourself, honestly . .really . .truly yourself, then what are you attracting? And do you really want them? Single is a good place to get reacquainted with yourself, you know?
Hmm . . this is the second time today I have felt like I was writing for hallmark . . .LoL Let me give you an answer, I love single, but not as much as I love
It's been a little over a year that I let my ex-fiancee go. Of course at that time, I was very heartbroken and not feeling optimistic about my life. But, oh how I turned a new leaf this year! 2007 has been my best year to date! I feel lonely sometimes, but I catch myself before I get into a deep depression. I am so happy with being single right now. I let go of the pressure to be married and have kids. I definitely desire a hubby and kids, but I dont' put my life on hold anymore. So I feel very free and peaceful about my life. I am more friendlier and I enjoy myown company. I enjoy my home also. Me and my ex lived together. I was wrapped up in him and his goals etc. I forgot about me! I am very happy being single and I hope and pray that the man I desire will find me. I just focus on the "now" and do all the things I didn't when I was engaged. Traveling, acting,really enjoying "my time". And I know this will be the key to my joy. The man that becomes my husband will be a compliment to my life, not someone to make me whole and complete. I am already whole and complete!:)
Hotcarmel
"It is not the years in your life, but the life in your years that counts."-Adlai Stevenson
I completely agree with everything you have said. I have found that in previous relationships, the things I want to do or the places I want to go seem to get placed on the backburner. I'm recently single again, so I'm spending this time to be 'selfish' and focus on what I want to do and where I want to go. Most of the time I'm OK with being single, but like others have mentioned, I do have days (like today), where I have my 'it sucks' moments.
Hello justone57,
Overall I would say that I am pretty happy being single. As running chick, I maintain a very busy schedule, so I don't really get to think about it very often, but I do have those lonely days. I realized when I am feeling down, I just go to the gym or my belly-dancing class, or even go out dancing in the club. Shopping helps as well. I noticed that I miss having someone on the weekends, since I have lots of free time then. And, I would say that the main aspect that I miss is sex and a little cuddling. lol What about you?
XOXOX
SasHaYa <3
I could almost retype your message. (-: Good days and bad. I do Ok alone, always have been fairly comfortable in my own skin for better or for worse. I haven't dated much lately, almost since I joined the board. Somehow this was part of a few things that came together and just made me stop and take measure of a few things.
I like single OK. I don't "need" someone in my life to make it whole . . but it does make it complete for me . . . I like being with someone. But in the same breath, part of why I stopped dating . .I want to do it right, and I am a "stop looking" guy, you know how that advice is always out there. I had to get my head back to that place . . have to get it back there. (-: I was looking. I think it fogs things up.
I guess I belive you need your head on straight in order to be attractive to others . . get that right, and you are then "naturally" open, friendly and naturally meeting others. When you meet others without agendas, then you are open to all possibility, and certainly "exposed" to falling in love with some of those that will be attracted to all that good spirited energy you are putting out there. ((-: But if you aren't being yourself, honestly . .really . .truly yourself, then what are you attracting? And do you really want them? Single is a good place to get reacquainted with yourself, you know?
Hmm . . this is the second time today I have felt like I was writing for hallmark . . .LoL Let me give you an answer, I love single, but not as much as I love
It's been a little over a year that I let my ex-fiancee go. Of course at that time, I was very heartbroken and not feeling optimistic about my life. But, oh how I turned a new leaf this year! 2007 has been my best year to date! I feel lonely sometimes, but I catch myself before I get into a deep depression. I am so happy with being single right now. I let go of the pressure to be married and have kids. I definitely desire a hubby and kids, but I dont' put my life on hold anymore. So I feel very free and peaceful about my life. I am more friendlier and I enjoy myown company. I enjoy my home also. Me and my ex lived together. I was wrapped up in him and his goals etc. I forgot about me! I am very happy being single and I hope and pray that the man I desire will find me. I just focus on the "now" and do all the things I didn't when I was engaged. Traveling, acting,really enjoying "my time". And I know this will be the key to my joy. The man that becomes my husband will be a compliment to my life, not someone to make me whole and complete. I am already whole and complete!:)
Hotcarmel
Chelle-
Amour-Propre
On most days, I'm
Hi Rob,
I completely agree with everything you have said. I have found that in previous relationships, the things I want to do or the places I want to go seem to get placed on the backburner. I'm recently single again, so I'm spending this time to be 'selfish' and focus on what I want to do and where I want to go. Most of the time I'm OK with being single, but like others have mentioned, I do have days (like today), where I have my 'it sucks' moments.
lisa