Single too long

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Registered: 10-03-2004
Single too long
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Tue, 07-05-2005 - 7:10pm

I have been single for a few years, everyone asks the question "why are you still single your such a pretty girl..yada, yada, yada" I am no Pam Anderson but I am attractive so I have no clue why I can't get a guy.

So with no man to do things with & all my girlfriends are dating, married, kids, etc. I am left all alone. I hang out with my sister & her kids a lot but I need a life of my own.

Anyone in Maryland feeling my pain?

If anyone is suffering the single blues like me, hit me up.

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Registered: 07-05-2005
Tue, 07-05-2005 - 11:45pm
I'm not in Maryland feeling your pain - I'm in WNY. But I get ya! I haven't been around the ivillage boards in awhile - but hello and welcome! It's rough when everyone around you is 'coupled'. No words of wisdom - just a virtual hug!
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Wed, 07-06-2005 - 12:30am

I'm not in Maryland either, but I'm in the same boat.

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Registered: 10-03-2004
Wed, 07-06-2005 - 4:45pm
Thank you, I appreciate your reply, not to say that misery loves company but I am glad there are others who know how I feel.
Take care & I hope you find all your heart needs & wants
Kelli
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Registered: 10-03-2004
Wed, 07-06-2005 - 4:47pm

you are very sweet, thank you for the hug, I needed that :)

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Registered: 07-06-2005
Wed, 07-06-2005 - 5:20pm

I feel your pain as well. I am 26, never married....you get the picture.

For me though, it's not so much being single. It's being lonely. I am involved in a struggling singles group at my church, and I am considering changing churches. A lot of my old friends have lost touch, and there are few events anymore. So I am thinking about changing churches.

All of which goes to say...I feel ya! I don't really have any good advice, though. Unfortunately.

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Registered: 10-03-2004
Wed, 07-06-2005 - 5:24pm
My church had a singles ministry as well but I just wasn't interested.
Are you from Maryland?
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Registered: 07-06-2005
Wed, 07-06-2005 - 5:25pm
I am from Oklahoma City, OK.
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Registered: 03-21-2004
Fri, 07-08-2005 - 11:20am
I've been single for over 27 years. never not been single. it blows.
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Registered: 05-16-2004
Fri, 07-08-2005 - 6:42pm

Hi! I'm not from Maryland.. but I am from Canada!

I feel your pain.. I was actually going to write the SAME post... because I'm feeling blue too :(

Been single for uhm... almost hmmm 5 YEARS.. haven't had sex in 3 years (was that appropriate to say? Probably not).. don't worry I've had action.. I just refused to sleep with idiots..and haven't met any non-idiots

anyway I am 25... ALL my friends are coupled...coupling up,.. marraiges slowly starting to happen..and I'm getting the "why are you single?".. "I have a great friend for you"..

Believe it or not one of my "I have a great friend for you" set me up on a date recently with a guy who was so flamboyant... he was like one of the queer eye for the straight guy guys!!!! dating horror stories.. I've got more

Unfortunately I have no advice.. as I sit in my perfect bachelor loft, thinking about how I have a great job, comfortable income, nice car, good body and I'm pretty .. I can't help but feel sad about having NO ONE to share it with..and unfortunatelyt.. as some friends couple up... the "single" gal gets left out of the mix

the only advice I can 'try' to share is to put yourself out there.. I think one of my problems is that I intimidate guys alot..and tend to go out in large groups of people to bars... which intimidates them more!... also.. I should probably stay out of the bars.. not the best place to meet quality guys..but it can happen!

keep your chin up and best of luck.. we are all there with you on this board... here to listen!

best
Kaye

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Registered: 04-18-2005
Fri, 07-08-2005 - 11:43pm
I know, being single can definitely be tough when it seems everyone around you is coupled up. It's great if you're lucky enough to have a solid group of single girl friends to both commisserate with and act as your wing-women/support group when you're on the dating scene (a la Sex in the City), but that's not always the case. The only advice I can give is to try online dating sites. Using online dating sites doesn't require you having a posse of single friends the way that the bar scene does. Plus I found that, at the very least, online dating sites provide much access to a lot of different types men -- which means its a pretty easy way to fill up your social calendar with dates. Good luck!!! And I know it sounds trite but these things really do happen when you least expect it. I had been single for over 2 years (and had much of the same feelings you did), but last month I met a great guy at a friend's wedding which I was dreading attending. You never know what's in store but just try to keep yourself out there and remain hopeful.

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