Singles and drinking.
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Singles and drinking.
| Thu, 07-26-2007 - 10:14pm |
Alright, so how come anytime I meet a great guy. And were just friends, and Im okay with that but obviously crushing.. Something involing alcohol and waking up together the next day isn't as quite as you planned.. Where like even though everything is cool, and he isn't freaked out. He stays on the other side of the room and doesn't seem like your good enough to talk to all of a sudden.
Does anyone else have this probelm? Or am I just the dumbass..?

I'm not quite sure I'm following you.
“”And were just friends, and Im okay with that but obviously crushing””
I am assuming you are talking about guys you have known for a while and have established a friendship with. Would I be correct?
The answer is basic, if they wanted to be tied down in a relationship with you they would have pursued the idea soberly. (-: Drunk and judgment are like Military and inelegance . . . oxymoron’s. Getting laid when you are drunk often has undesirable results. In the case of the guys you are describing, the getting laid part was fine with them "at the moment", they however are dreading that “commitment” / “Love” / whatever… you get the idea . . . basically for that dreaded shoe to drop. As a guy who has female friends . . . there are reasons for not confusing the lines always. Sex is an ender of friendships, so I figure I have to at some point decide, lust or just a great friend to hang out with, talk to . . . friendships like any relationships take some commitment and effort. (-:
“obviously crushing”
Are you creating these situations with the hope something different will result? Are you sure these are friends, or just guys for witch you hold out hope for? Even just a little lust?
They way I see it, would you sleep with a “girl” friend? Treat your “guy” friend the same way. Moving on any friend tends to leave behind uncomfortable feelings. If you think you might feel more . . .conversation is safer if handled with a little skill. Drunken nights . . .very dangerous way to test the waters if you care about what the results might be tomorrow. Many things can happen that would NEVER have happened sober, often because judgment is smarter than abandon. ((-:. If I “regret it” . . you can bet money drinks preceded it.
Food for thought.