Sleeeeep

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Sleeeeep
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Mon, 02-13-2012 - 10:19pm
Has anyone else found you sleep better with someone else in the room? Kind of odd, but I think I do.

I'm trying to figure out why I don't sleep through the night 99% of the time. For awhile, I thought maybe I had a neighbor who was getting up and banging things around, but I've changed neighbors and never hear anything when I'm awake. It doesn't matter what time I go to bed or when I have to wake up. I always wake up at least once. Sometimes at midnight, sometimes at 3am or later. Sometimes many times.

But...it doesn't happen when I'm back home. Most of the time there, my sister is sleeping in the next bed, snoring, mmmmm-ing (she mmms when she sleeps), and tossing around in a squeaky bed. But I never wake up! I sleep until 8am at least and I feel like I've slept. I miss feeling like I've slept! The same thing happens when I have a boyfriend who sleeps over.

I wish I could figure it out. Melatonin helps me get to sleep, but not stay there. Most single people say they like sleeping alone. I'd rather have someone there! I'm wondering if having someone there reminds me to breathe or something.
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In reply to: shywon
Tue, 02-14-2012 - 8:35pm
T once told me that he slept on his couch a lot of the time "because it's comfortable." Now I wonder if maybe its because his divorce is new. He doesn't ever sleep over, but that's because of his kids. I can tell he's a guy who doesn't do well alone, so it would make sense that an empty bed would bother him.
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In reply to: shywon
Tue, 02-14-2012 - 11:09am
I don't know about quality of sleep but, I know that after my LTR ended, I slept on the couch for a very long time. I thought I was alone in this (you don't feel as lonely as when in a big bed) then, one night I was hanging out with some male friends, and told them about my new habit of avoiding my bed. One of them said he did the same thing after his divorce.
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In reply to: shywon
Tue, 02-14-2012 - 8:25am

The same thoughts go through my head on occasion.

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In reply to: shywon
Tue, 02-14-2012 - 6:32am

I sleep better with other people in the house. If I visit someone and spend the night, I sleep better. I sleep better with a man, too, although I don't want to be touching when I'm actually sleeping.

I've been suffering with insomnia for years. It got really bad when I went through the Big M. It's better now, but still not cured. I think in my case, I am lonely. There are things I like about living alone, but it is not my preference. I think I also feel a little afraid living alone: not of someone breaking in, but more like "Did I lock the doors?" or "Did I leave the iron on?" Just this burden of having to take care of everything myself.

If your health insurance covers it, you may want to have a sleep study done. I'm thinking of seeking treatment myself, although I don't think I have sleep apnea.

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Registered: 02-13-2012
In reply to: shywon
Mon, 02-13-2012 - 11:47pm
(I'm a guy) but I also sleep better with others in a room, be it with a girl or camping with a group.

For me I think the reason is that I stop daydreaming with others around,. When alone, my thinking might lead to a literal lol, talking out loud, tossing and turns, and probably just too much mental activity in general. It's also all too easy to just get up and surf the net too. When not alone, I'm forced to shut it down unless if something really big is on my mind.

When alone, I might think
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In reply to: shywon
Mon, 02-13-2012 - 11:31pm

Personally, I HATE sleeping with someone else in the room.

Maybe you'd benefit from buying yourself a FitBit.

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In reply to: shywon
Mon, 02-13-2012 - 11:02pm

Maybe there's some psychological comfort that you have by having someone else around.