Slim pickings?

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Registered: 06-24-2005
Slim pickings?
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Mon, 01-01-2007 - 5:40pm

I hope everyone had a great New Years Eve!

I went out to a party with a bunch of friends last night to ring in the New Year. There were probably 100 people there, all about 21-30 years old. Somehow I couldn't even get a little buzz on and I spent the night people watching, which you know can be entertaining in and of itself! Most of the guys had an incredibly drunk chica on their arm, or were crazy drunk and talking about just getting laid. I was incredibly dissapointed in thinking that this is what 20-something guys are like...not all of them, but a good chunk of them.

I just feel like they aren't many guys out there in this age bracket that have matured past crazy partying and just getting laid. Is anybody else getting this sense? Now I'm not looking for anything right this minute or even dating really...but seeing this is a little depressing. I don't mind staying single for a couple more years if they guys tend to outgrow this stage...I've always dated those a little older but even they seem to act younger than I do!

Oy vey..

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Mon, 01-01-2007 - 6:23pm

Happy New Year to you!

I don't know, I dated a guy ten years my junior (he was 21) and while there was some immaturity there it was more inexperience than anything else. He was actually pretty evolved relationship wise, very good communicator.

Maybe the element was off last night because of the type of scene you were in . . . NYE party, free flowing alcohol, you know?

In any case, I hope that when you are ready to get back out there and start dating again, you are able to meet a guy who can appreciate fine wine rather than one who prefers Jager bombs!

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Mon, 01-01-2007 - 6:59pm

I was talking with another woman last night, and she said her mom said men don't ever grow up until they're about 45 and they start to realize they aren't the dapper young thing they used to be.

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Mon, 01-01-2007 - 7:38pm

Ivil_sephora16,

I've come to the conclusion that men will act differently with women depending on their age. When I was in my 20s, all the guys I met were very similar to what you described; immature, wanting to party; get laid; didn't want a serious relationship etc However, now I'm in my 30's, I am constantly meeting men in their early twenties who are responsible, who don't drink excessively and are looking for a serious relationship. If they met you however, they might act a different way altogether. Alternatively though, if I meet a man who is close to my age and this has only been my experience, they tend to be immature, bitter and have issues but if you met the same man, he might act mature and altogether. I think men in their 30's are threatened by women their own age because they think we all want to settle down and have children whereas they feel more relaxed with a 20 something because they might think that this is not their first priority. That's my take on it anyway.

Feisty